“I have dreamed in my life, dreams that have stayed with me ever after, and changed my ideas; they have gone through me, like wine through water, and altered the color of my mind.”
– Emily Bronte, a rumored INFJ
INFJs are one of the most enigmatic personality types in the Myers-Briggs® system. Making up less than 1% of the U.S. population, these insightful personalities are often referred to as “mystics”, “counselors” or “advocates”. They are known for their visionary insights, their idealism, imagination, and empathy. Famous rumored INFJs include Mahatma Gandhi, Dante Alighieri, Agatha Christie, and Leo Tolstoy.
What makes these visionary idealists tick? How do they see and process the world around them? What are their strengths and blind spots? Let’s take a look!
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One of the greatest strengths of the healthy INFJ is their ability to forecast future events with only a small amount of sensory data. Their dominant or “hero” function is called Introverted Intuition, or Ni for short. This process is all about finding intangible or abstract connections between the unconscious world and the outer world. People who value Ni (INTJs and INFJs specifically) are always on a quest to find the underlying meaning, significance, and purpose behind everything. They are always trying to peer behind the scenes to find out what’s hidden and what the “dance of the universe” really is.
To the INFJ everything has many layers of meaning, and their goal is to get to the deepest, most innermost, secret layer.
INFJs are extremely future-focused. In fact, they can get so caught up in thinking about the future that they lose sight of the present moment. They are always trying to decipher what will happen someday and how events will play out. Most of the time their predictions and epiphanies appear “out of the blue” and this can make them seem magical or mystical in some ways. Up until recently nobody really knew how or why these intuitions occurred, but neuroscientist Dario Nardi has made some progress in understanding Introverted Intuition.
According to Nardi, INFJs enter a “zen-like” brain state when they are tasked to envision the future or solve a complex problem. Nardi conducted EEG brain-wave tests that showed that INFJs, when presented with a novel or complex problem, would harness all neocortex regions in order to “realize” an answer. This zen state or realization might happen quickly or result in a sudden epiphany of insight. Usually, these insights will occur when the INFJ is in a relaxed, calm state and not distracted by a lot of noise and sensory data. You can find out more about this brain state here or by reading Dario Nardi’s book, The Neuroscience of Personality.
The epiphanies that INFJs get may be confusing even to them. They might get a sudden feeling that someone they love is in trouble or a symbolic vision in their mind might inexplicably explain something about the future. This is a quality that many people tend to disbelieve or laugh at, so INFJs are often very protective of their inner selves and are usually very guarded about sharing their intuitions. Even so, these sudden feelings and “hunches” follow them throughout most of their life. If they accept this part of their personality and embrace it they can learn to differentiate the accurate insights from what is just paranoia or worry. If INFJs try to repress their intuition they can get their insights and a sense of paranoia mixed up and have a hard time discerning which insights are meaningful and accurate and which are just feelings of worry, apprehension, or fear.
Find out more about the INFJ in The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic
Intuition in Speech and Writing
INFJs tend to think in images and symbols much of the time, and as a result, their language is filled with metaphor, symbolism, and abstract word usage. They tend to be on the quiet side, but if someone takes the time to truly listen to them they can talk a great deal and simultaneously use very little concrete data in their speech. They often pay great attention to their dreams, because they are so intrinsically connected to their unconscious. In fact, according to Building Blocks of Personality Type, Introverted Intuition “Is the only perception process that is independent of the conscious mind” and “is the only process that does not need any external stimulus.”
You can see the symbolism and language of the INFJ in the writings of Dante Alighieri, who many typologists believe to be an INFJ.
“I wept not, so to stone within I grew.”
“As one who sees in dreams and wakes to find the emotional impression of his vision still powerful while its parts fade from his mind – Just such am I, having lost nearly all the vision itself, while in my heart I feel the sweetness of it yet distill and fall.”
INFJs will always be most at home with their intuitions and perceptions, but their second-preferred mental process is called Extraverted Feeling (Fe). Fe is all about understanding the emotions and moods of other people and maintaining morale. INFJs are keenly aware of the emotional “atmosphere” of a room can pick up on minor variations in mood and can sense when people feel uncomfortable, awkward, sad, or happy, even with very little data to go on. For some INFJs, this strength is extremely pronounced and they can have a difficult time differentiating other people’s emotions from their own. They might suddenly feel sad or afraid or angry only to realize that they were picking up on someone else’s mood, even complete strangers.
“INFJs who use intuition and extraverted feeling often report that they can “feel” someone else’s mood as if it is their own. Many INFJs
report experiences of being in a building full of strangers (a grocery store, mall, etc,.) and “feeling” the sadness, fear, or anxiety of a total stranger within close proximity. Their extreme attention to the moods of others and their ability to
empathize so strongly means that sometimes they can confuse other people’s moods for their own.”
– The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic
Other INFJs prefer the internal world of intuition and suppress feeling; these INFJs can appear less empathetic and warm than the typical INFJ and may appear highly reclusive. These INFJs often mistype as INTJs or INTPs.
Because INFJs value feeling, they will take into consideration the needs of others whenever they make a decision. When tasked to decide something, they will first ask themselves “what do other people need?”, “what will maintain harmony?”, “how will this affect everyone involved?”, “what are my values regarding this?”. To most INFJs, maintaining harmony and ensuring the happiness of others is of extreme importance. This is why so many INFJs are drawn to humanitarian fields and have a desire to make a positive impact for people. Their intuition is the lens with which they take in everything around them, but their feeling function is what guides their decisions. Both processes together cause the INFJ to 1) Seek deeper meaning and significance in everything they see, and 2) Look for ways to use the meanings they decipher to help or improve the lives of others.
Because of their unique strengths, many INFJs are drawn to fields in counseling, social work, or religion. In fact, according to the MBTI® Manual, INFJs are overrepresented in the fields of psychology, the arts, and religion.
The third-preferred mental process of the INFJ is called Introverted Thinking, or “Ti” for short. Ti is all about searching for accuracy, classifying data internally, and understanding the underlying principles of how everything works. INFJs don’t usually develop strong use of Ti until they are in their 20’s or 30’s, at which point it becomes highly relied upon. Ti becomes a source of creativity and relief for the INFJ, adding objective balance to their decisions and giving them a stronger desire to find accuracy in their perceptions and insights.
INFJs who are developing Ti tend to be very careful about word usage and they enjoy analyzing problems logically and categorizing data into finely-tuned inner volumes. When INFJs have to make a decision that will affect others, they will usually value feeling overthinking. They will still, almost always, ask themselves “what choice will benefit people the most?”. However, when making a decision that will only affect themselves, INFJs will often look at the logical approach and impersonal data to move forward.
Many INFJs mention feeling torn between thinking and feeling when having to make a decision. On one hand, the harmony of others is supremely important to them, on the other hand, they usually are quite aware of the inaccuracies of other people’s decisions, so they can struggle with figuring out how to balance the two opposing views. Choosing tact and empathy over logic is more comfortable in the younger years, but as INFJs grow and mature, they may find themselves more drawn to the logical approach.
The least-preferred mental process of the INFJ is called Extraverted Sensing, or “Se” for short. Se is focused on staying in tune with the present moment and noticing concrete details and realities. Se-users (ESPs and ISPs) are usually very tuned into the moment, very aware of details, and very realistic and literal. INFJs, in contrast, tend to be more focused on the future than the moment, more focused on abstract impressions than concrete details, and more metaphorical than literal in their speech. However, Se will still play a role in the INFJ’s life.
Se gives the INFJ an extreme fondness for beautiful surroundings and tranquil environments. When the INFJ taps into Se to find concrete data that would support a vision or insight, they can be highly detail-oriented and sharp-sighted in their perceptions. They can only stay highly “tuned in” to Se for a limited time, however, before they get over-stimulated. Since this is their inferior function they often find it overwhelming to focus on. Unlike ESPs, who can handle a lot of sensory stimulation, INFJs tend to feel easily over-stimulated and overwhelmed by bright lights, loud noises, and a lot of details. As children, they may have meltdowns when over-stimulated and as adults, they may dim the lights upon entering a room so that it’s easier for them to think. It can also be difficult for INFJs to be in new environments where they have to pay attention to a lot of concrete details. As an example, driving in new, unfamiliar cities might be stressful for them.
When INFJs are extremely stressed, they may fall “into the grip” of Extraverted Sensing. When this happens, they can seem like totally different people. They might become suddenly impulsive, focused on present-moment realities, and highly aware of concrete details. They may try to overload their senses with stimulation; either through over-eating, drinking too much, binge-watching TV, or listening to extremely loud music. They might lash out at people or things in their environment without thought, which is highly unlike them because they usually are extremely tactful and considerate.
You can find methods for getting out of this kind of stress phase in this post.
As INFJs enter their 50’s and 60’s they usually develop a more mature and balanced use of Extraverted Sensing. They tend to become more aware of details, more in tune with the present moment, and more resourceful in practical, realistic ways.
INFJs in Relationships
INFJs take their romantic relationships very seriously for the most part. Many INFJs are actually quite happy being single and don’t feel a particular compulsion to settle down or “find” romance. They would much rather be alone than with someone who isn’t ideal, and so they don’t mind taking their time to find a partner who has depth, sincerity, and they can actually see a future with. As introverts, INFJs generally find a lot of happiness in their alone time and can actually feel overwhelmed when entering a relationship as they find themselves constantly thinking of the needs of the other person and having less of that quiet, tranquil time to themselves.
The idealism of the INFJ is both a blessing and a curse in romantic relationships. On the one hand, they are careful and cautious when entering new relationships. On the other hand, they can be overly perfectionistic and feel disappointed when their partners inevitably fail to live up to their ideals.
“When in love, the INFJ will try to be as authentic and emotionally vulnerable as possible, which is no small feat since they are fiercely protective of their inner selves and tend to be private. It may scare them to confess their love, to write a poem, or to share a song that describes how they feel. But giving someone these long-locked pieces of their hearts is one of the most generous ways that they can show true affection.”
– The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic
When INFJs are committed to someone, they are extremely loyal and giving. They are willing to put their own needs on the backburner on many occasions to take care of the needs of their loved ones. They are warm, empathetic, nurturing, and generous. They want their partners to feel their unconditional love and sometimes they may go too far; giving too much of themselves and losing themselves in the needs of their partner. It’s important for INFJs to give themselves space, to consider their own needs, and to get regular alone time so they can remember their goals, values, and personal desires.
More than anything, INFJs want a relationship with depth. They aren’t interested in shallow flings or small talk and movies, they want a near-spiritual connection with their partner. They want to understand them in the deepest possible way, both the good side and the dark side. The more honest and sincere their partner is with them, the happier the INFJ will be. However, if their partner keeps them at arm’s length or tries to hide things from them they will quickly pick up on it and tire of the relationship.
You can find out more about INFJ relationships here.
– Visionary. INFJs are led by their vision and are quick to grasp underlying meanings, patterns, and implications. They can quickly see how events will play out and can be very strategic in pursuing an ideal or plan for the future.
– Empathetic. INFJs deeply care about others and are usually very attuned to how other people feel. They are often good listeners and are deeply concerned with improving the world and the lives of people outside themselves. They can be very selfless in their pursuits.
– Determined. INFJs are often driven by a singular vision of the future. They trust their visions and insights with such passion that they can be relentless in their pursuit of a goal or ideal. Once they’ve settled on a path for their life they are very difficult to dissuade.
– Insightful. INFJs are quick to pick up on hidden meanings, connections, and relationships. They can often see clues and truths that other people miss or overlook. They are always asking themselves, “What else is going on here?” and so they often see things that are mysteriously absent to others.
– Creative. INFJs are usually motivated to trailblaze new and innovative paths for the future. They are highly imaginative and complex and enjoy using their imagination to write, create art, or even pursue revolutionary business ideas.
– Perfectionistic. INFJs are known for their high ideals and their grand visions. They often hold themselves to unattainable standards and get very frustrated when they fail to meet those standards. They may try so hard to be “perfect” that they are chronically unhappy with what they currently have.
– Prone to Burnout and Over-Stimulation. Because INFJs have inferior Sensing, they can easily get burned out by an overload of sensory stimulation. Also, because they have such high ideals and are so private about their inner selves they may push themselves to the point of mental breakdown without support from others.
– Isolation. Because INFJs are often misunderstood in early life, many become guarded and protective of their inner selves. They feel that nobody will ever really “get” their visions or ideas and that they will always be outsiders. They can grapple with loneliness a great deal and struggle with a feeling of separateness from others.
– Sensitive to Criticism. INFJs tend to care a great deal about harmony and about other’s perceptions of them. They also focus so much on being perfect that they can take criticism very hard and be very ashamed by its. They tend to have a hard time not taking criticism personally and can try to avoid people who are in the habit of regularly giving criticism.
– Procrastination. INFJs can take a long time to settle on a goal or decision. Because they lead with a perceiving process, they can take a lot of time analyzing, asking questions, and trying to uncover hidden truths and complexities before they decide to act. This can mean that they take too long to come to a decision or waste time looking for deeper meanings where there are none.
Fun Facts About The INFJ Personality Type:
– They are the least common type in the U.S. population
– They are one of two types with the highest college GPA
– They are the highest of all types in marital dissatisfaction
– Their preferred academic subjects are Art, English, and music.
– In a national sample, they ranked lowest in valuing “Health”, “Financial Security” and “Prestige & Status”
– They tend to appear in career fields involving religion, counseling, teaching, and the arts
– Their preferred leisure activities include writing, appreciating art, and reading.
Want to Find Out More About INFJs? Check Out The INFJ – Understanding The Mystic!
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