While psychological type can’t tell us everything about a person, it can shed light on some of the things that really bother them. Let’s take a look at some of the things that deeply offend each personality type.

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The ENFP – Apathy

ENFPs are individuals of passion and idealism. They are determined believers in leaving the world a better place than they found it. They care deeply about the underdogs of the world and often can be found fighting for the cause of oppressed people. They are offended by people who lack concern for the welfare of others and who are happy to live their lives wrapped up in their own day-to-day concerns. People who brush off the struggles of others or who turn a blind eye to the problems of the world are deeply frustrating to them.

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The ENTP – Willful Ignorance

For the ENTP, accuracy in all things is essential. When they come across people who blatantly disregard facts in order to continue believing in a hoax, tradition, or belief system it frustrates them to the core. Willful ignorance, or “confirmation bias” allows people to continue arguing or debating a problem by using logical fallacies, circular reasoning, or excuses. People who are willfully ignorant may argue endlessly against a cause yet simultaneously be unwilling to read, hear, or study the opposing view in any way. ENTPs, who live to seek truth (even if it makes them uncomfortable) are confounded by those who are willing to ignore facts in order to sustain an inaccurate belief.

Related: 10 Things You Should Never Say to an ENTP

The INFP – Hypocrisy

Authenticity and integrity are both powerful values of the INFP personality type. These types are constantly checking in with themselves to assess whether they are living in accordance with their personal ethics. Before speaking, taking an action, or making a decision they ask themselves “Is this really what I believe is right?”, “Am I being sincere here?”. Because they value sincerity to such a strong degree they are deeply offended by people who don’t “practice what they preach”.

Related: 10 Things You Should Never Say to an INFP

The INTP – Guilt Tripping

People who use emotional manipulation to get what they want rather than coming right out and asking for it are the bane of the INTPs existence. INTPs detest it when people use guilt as a way to get something. If there’s an actual reason for the INTP to feel guilty and someone confronts them with it that’s different. Using guilt to get emotional reassurance, a favor, or to gain the upper-hand is one way to seriously jeopardize a relationship with an INTP.

Related: 10 Things You Should Never Say to an INTP

The ENFJ – Selfishness

ENFJs are firm believers in “The Golden Rule”. They are wired to think of the needs and concerns of others and they often put those needs before their own. As a result they are deeply offended by selfishness and self-serving behavior. People who choose to look aside from the suffering people of the world and get wrapped up only in their own ambitions or comforts exasperate them.

Related: 10 Things You’ll Relate to if You’re an ENFJ

The ENTJ – Passive Aggressiveness

People who pout, sulk, or emotionally “punish” their loved ones rather than directly admitting what is wrong infuriate ENTJs. ENTJs are all about being direct, cutting to the chase, and being honest. They believe that passive-aggressive behavior is not only a waste of their time but insulting to their desire to fix what’s wrong. If you’re ever upset with an ENTJ – tell them. Don’t give them the silent treatment or hide in a corner giving them dirty looks. If you need time to process what you’re upset about, simply tell them “I’m upset but I don’t know how to talk about it yet. I need some time.” Whatever you do, just tell them the truth.

The INFJ – Condescension

INFJs don’t only hate condescension when it’s directed at them – they hate it when it’s directed at anyone. There’s no better way to infuriate an INFJ than to talk down to someone, especially if the condescension is paired with generalizations or “blanket statements” that lack accurate data. Patronizing statements about broad groups of people (“lazy, entitled millennials” for example) anger INFJs who may find themselves defending a group of people they don’t even have a strong connection to simply because the condescension irritates them so much.

Related: 24 Revealing Quotes About the INFJ Personality Type

The INTJ –  Assumptions

If you’re ever having a conversation with an INTJ, please, please do not interrupt them with what you anticipate they will say. Don’t make inferences about their character or jump to conclusions about what they can or cannot do. If they’ve spent a great deal of time listening to you, don’t cut them off mid-sentence with your opinion about what they are going to say (or think) and your corresponding argument with it. INTJs are hardly predictable people, but if someone show a habit of jumping to conclusions or making false assumptions they may just write them off and refrain from engaging with them at all.

Related: 3 Weird and Wonderful Secrets About the INTJ

The ESFP – Judgmental, Know-it-all Behavior

Self-righteous, superior behavior completely exasperates the ESFP. There’s nothing worse to them than someone who not only thinks they have all the answers, but thinks they need to tell everyone else how to live their lives. It’s especially bad if the judgmental person labels other people. Labeling is something that ESFPs can’t stand – they believe everyone is a unique individual with many different facets and qualities that make them one-of-a-kind. People who take themselves too seriously or feel the need to judge others are usually too tiring for the ESFP to be around.

The ESTP – Being Underestimated

One of the worst things you can say to an ESTP is that they “can’t” do something or that you don’t trust them to get the job done right. ESTPs are skilled at troubleshooting and problem-solving in make-or-break situations where there is a lot of pressure to find a solution quickly. When they are underestimated or dismissed, especially when they are trying to help, this can provoke intense anger in them. They don’t offer to help with something unless they are confident they can do it.

The ISFP – Preying On the Vulnerable

ISFPs tend to be advocates for the underdogs and bullied people of the world and detest anyone who tries to put them down or take advantage of them. They are extremely proactive in defense of people they feel are marginalized, persecuted, or vulnerable in any way. People who manipulate, trick, or harm the defenseless will provoke very intense anger from the otherwise serene ISFP.

The ISTP – Being Teased About Something Personal

ISTPs are very reserved, private individuals who only share their deepest feelings and secrets with a select few. If someone takes those secrets and shares them or, worse, teases them about it publicly, they will probably have a hard time getting into the ISTP’s good graces ever again. If an ISTP tells you something personal it’s best to assume that it should never be shared with anyone else without their explicit permission.

The ESFJ – Trolling

ESFJs deeply dislike people who start an argument or upset others just to generate some excitement for themselves. To the (healthy) ESFJ, people’s feelings should always be handled with care. There is never an excuse to insult or tear down another human being or say inflammatory things just to get everyone riled up. As promoters of harmony and understanding, trolling types will find the ESFJ a formidable adversary.

The ESTJ – Disrespecting Their Time

ESTJs take their time very seriously. They believe that every moment should be put to good purpose and laziness is anathema to them. People who procrastinate, don’t show up on time, or cancel plans at the last minute are maddening to them. If you don’t respect their time then they will have a hard time believing that you respect them as a person.

The ISFJ – Rudeness

ISFJs are extremely attuned to the needs and comforts of the people around them. As such, they find people who are crass, overbearing, or self-seeking oppressive to be around. They believe that every person deserves to be treated with respect, tact, and empathy. They believe that each person deserves personal space and a peaceful environment. People who encroach on others, dismiss their values, or cause a lot of drama just to get attention are incredibly vexing to ISFJs.

Related: 10 Things You’ll Relate to if You’re an ISFJ

The ISTJ – Breaking Your Word

ISTJs (at least the healthy ones) are people of their word. They believe in following through on their commitments and they have a great deal of respect for other people’s time. They are extremely offended by people who shirk plans, break promises, or are wishy-washy with their responsibilities. If you break a promise or a commitment with an ISTJ they will have a hard time taking you seriously again in the future. If you respect them, by all means respect their time.

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