How compatible are INFJs with other personality types? Let’s explore how these sixteen relationship combinations would look!
Who are INFJs compatible with?
Literally any type! However, each pairing is going to have some pros and cons and unique struggles. Read up on the following assessments to get a closer look!
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Estimated reading time: 13 minutes
INFJs and ENFPs
Ideas will abound in this exciting relationship. ENFPs will bring the options, alternatives, and breadth of ideas, whereas INFJs will bring a probing, deep insight into one or two ideas. There’s usually a quick spark between these two because, while they’re both very similar in some ways – they use each of their strengths in a totally different way. INFJs and ENFPs are both intuitive-dominant types, but while ENFPs will constantly generate more ideas, INFJs will constantly be narrowing them down to find the best fit. ENFPs will focus on alignment with their inner values, while INFJs will be social chameleons – wearing their hearts on their sleeves and focusing on the moods and feelings of others. ENFPs can broaden the INFJs perspective on life, while INFJs can help ENFPs to narrow their focus and dig deeper. These two will go on lots of adventures, both physically and mentally – each one sparking brighter, more vivid insights in the other. There might be some misunderstandings and arguments because they share none of the same cognitive functions, but because of that, they can both help each other to grow in powerful ways.
INFJs and ENTPs
Chemistry runs high in this powerhouse relationship. Both INFJs and ENTPs share the same decision-making functions, Introverted Thinking, and Extraverted Feeling. Because of this, they will both value precise logic and open, transparent communication and shared feelings. ENTPs will tantalize INFJs with their never-ending list of ideas and experiences, and INFJs will draw ENTPs in with their warmth and imagination. Psychologist David Keirsey suggested that this was the most ideal match for both of these types.
INFJs and INFPs
Depth and imagination run wild in this powerful relationship. While these types share none of the same cognitive functions, they share many of the same values. Both thrive in quiet atmospheres and enjoy focusing on imagination and possibility more than surface-level details. INFPs can help INFJs to deep-dive into their feelings and find out what really matters to them on a personal level. INFJs can help INFPs to find a focus and direction for all their creative energy. Problems can arise in this relationship when INFJs see INFPs as too caught up in their own feelings or too hard to read, and INFPs feel that INFJs are “people-pleasers.”. By developing an understanding of each other’s cognitive functions, the two can have a much more understanding relationship.
INFJs and INTPs
Often called the “Golden pair,” INFJs and INTPs find each other intriguing yet comfortable to be with. Used to being perceived as misfits, together they can escape into the solace of their quiet, introverted world. Exploring ideas and theories in-depth will give them both a rush, and many nights will be spent reading books, debating concepts, and refining each other’s perspectives on life. INTPs can help INFJs to refine their accuracy and logic, whereas INFJs can help INTPs to refine their understanding of the emotional world and human dynamics. Problems can arise in this relationship when the INTP‘s more laid-back way of life interferes with the INFJs perfectionism and vice versa. You can find out more about this duo in my article, Why INFJs and INTPs Fall for Each Other.
INFJs and ENFJs
Passion runs rampant in this dynamic, emotionally-rich relationship. INFJs and ENFJs have so much in common that they will naturally have a deep understanding of each other. In fact, they may get so caught up in “reading” each other that they get their emotions mixed up in the process. It’s common for these pairs to struggle with differentiating their own feelings because their empathy runs so high. Driven and organized, both of these types will enjoy envisioning and achieving goals. Together they can be an unstoppable force, working with people and projects to inspire change in the world. However, they need to work on slowing down sometimes and taking care of their own physical needs. Both of these types tend to downplay the importance of adequate rest, nutrition, and other health requirements. Being aware of this can help them to keep those important aspects of life on their radar.
INFJs and ENTJs
This relationship can either be a very good or a very bad idea. Both of these types are visionary, future-focused, and strategic. Both enjoy having a plan and structure for life. However, while ENTJs are decisive, straightforward types, INFJs tend to be more introspective and slow to come to conclusions. INFJs can find ENTJs intimidating or overly-forceful, while ENTJs can find INFJs too wishy-washy or sensitive. These relationships often find more harmony in later life when ENTJs get more in touch with their feeling side and INFJs get more in touch with their thinking side. However, in the early years, there can be a lot of conflicts if neither one is willing to understand the other’s perspective. Either way, when these types work together they can motivate the other to achieve far-reaching, groundbreaking goals.
INFJs and INFJs
Kindred spirits, INFJs and INFJs will naturally be drawn to each other for their shared empathy and global view of life. That said, so much similarity can be too much of a good thing and this combination can find themselves stuck in a “bubble” of stagnancy if they’re not careful. They may enable each other in their weaknesses or find themselves bored by so much similarity. However, they can also motivate each other in their strengths and work through misunderstandings quickly. There will be plenty of transparent, authentic conversation here, as well as respect for each other’s space. Many evenings will be spent reading books on the couch or discussing the meaning of life. These two just need to be careful not to stump each other’s growth by ignoring their shared weaknesses.
INFJs and INTJs
This relationship is bound to be both intense and meaningful. Both of these types look for grand patterns, connections, and possibilities. Both are drawn to the abstract and theoretical more than surface-level realities. However, where INFJs make decisions based on the dynamics and needs of the people around them, INTJs will make decisions by weighing the pros and cons and looking at the logical facts. This can lead to conflict when both types reach an impasse on a decision. However, during these times they can help each other to grow and see outside themselves to make better decisions. INFJs can help INTJs to take other people’s needs into account and INTJs can help INFJs to see a more straightforward, logical approach to problem-solving. This can be a relationship with a few conflicts, but it can also be one of tremendous growth and fulfillment. You can find out a lot more about this relationship here: Your Guide to the INFJ and INTJ Relationship.
INFJs and ESFPs
This relationship is not for the faint of heart. Each of these individuals will challenge the other in ways that can seem scary or overwhelming, but that can be a good thing. INFJs challenge ESFPs to slow down and look ahead, and ESFPs challenge INFJs to trust their impulses and take more action. INFJs bring warmth and imagination to the relationship, while ESFPs bring excitement and practicality. Together they can do nearly anything, but they’re also likely to have a fair share of conflicts. It can be easy for them to feel “triggered” by each other because both will be strong in areas where the other is weak. These types need to be careful that they don’t get condescending and overly-critical with each other. INFJs tend to see Sensing as less important than Intuition, and ESFPs see Intuition as less important than Sensing. Because of this, they may perpetually misunderstand why the other is prioritizing the things that they do. A deep understanding of personality type can help these two to bridge misunderstandings and differences and grow closer in the process.
INFJs and ESTPs
If you like an exciting challenge, then this relationship is the one for you. INFJs and ESTPs look like opposites at first glance, but they actually share all of the same cognitive functions in the reverse order. This means that even though they may have different lifestyle preferences, they seem to innately understand each other in many of life’s situations. ESTPs energize and motivate INFJs, while INFJs help ESTPs slow down and see the bigger picture. Both types can create a lot of balance for the other if they are willing to appreciate each other’s differences without getting irritated by them.
Pairs in this relationship need to look out for condescension. Because both types are strong in areas where the other is weak, it can be natural to think that the other person is causing problems when they’re really only doing things according to their natural type. You can find out more details about this in my article, Why INFJs and ESTPs Fall in Love.
INFJs and ISFPs
Depth and creativity are at the heart of this relationship pairing. While this pairing is rarer than many, it is by no means for lack of passion. ISFPs help INFJs to probe deeper into their personal values and feelings. They also help them to see the beauty and joy in the physical details of life. INFJs help ISFPs to tap into their intuition and see hidden meanings and possibilities. Both types naturally respect each other’s space, but tension can build when they don’t respect each other’s feeling preferences. ISFPs tend to dwell on their feelings privately for a while before wanting to discuss them. INFJs are more likely to want to deal with feelings and emotions quickly. INFJs can be pushy with ISFPs about having open, transparent conversations, and ISFPs can feel that INFJs are too concerned with everyone else’s feelings and not as in touch with their own. An understanding of the differences between Fe and Fi can help these types overcome many of their relationship obstacles.
INFJs and ISTPs
Surprisingly, this romantic pairing is fairly common. INFJs and ISTPs are drawn to each other because they have enough similarities to make things comfortable, yet enough differences to make life exciting. Both respect each other’s privacy and need for space and both have strengths where the other has weaknesses. INFJs bring emotional understanding and visionary insight into the relationship, while ISTPs bring practical knowledge and a sense of adventure to the union. Both types find the differences in their partner intriguing and sexy, and since they share the same cognitive functions there’s less cause for misunderstanding as in many other relationship pairings. That said, these relationships aren’t conflict-free. INFJs like a lot of transparency and emotional connection, whereas ISTPs tend to be more reserved about such things. In the same way, ISTPs like straightforward, direct communication and INFJs are natural “sugarcoaters.” There can be conflict when the ISTP inadvertently hurts the INFJs feelings by being too direct or the INFJ becomes passive-aggressive rather than expressing their frustrations directly.
INFJs and ESFJs
Warmth and consideration are at the heart of this romantic relationship. These two types will find in each other gracious, dependable companions. INFJs enjoy the empathy and dependability of ESFJs, and ESFJs enjoy the imagination and insight that INFJs bring to the union. That said, these types don’t wind up together very frequently. This is likely because their interests tend to lie in different arenas. INFJs are drawn to the theoretical and abstract while ESFJs are drawn to real-world experiences. INFJs are more comfortable with going down obscure, risky paths while ESFJs tend to be more risk-averse. As an example, an INFJ might decide to experiment with different religions, some more obscure, while an ESFJ is more likely to stick with what they know and trust rather than trying out many other things. INFJs can think that ESFJs are too traditional, and ESFJs might think that INFJs are too distanced from reality. If you’re in this relationship I’d suggest reading about Ni (the INFJ’s mode of perception) and Si (the ESFJ’s mode of perception) to get a better understanding of each other.
INFJs and ESTJs
If you’re looking to grow and challenge yourself, then this relationship might be the catalyst you seek! These two personality types tend to have a lot of conflicts with each other, but they can also propel each other towards greater levels of understanding. They may be drawn to each other simply because they are so different from each other! ESTJs can help INFJs take better care of their physical needs and tend to the practical details of life. INFJs can help ESTJs to see the bigger picture and the perspectives of other people. Conflicts arise when INFJs find ESTJs too brusque and controlling, or ESTJs try too hard to pull INFJs away from their abstract perspectives. Because these types share none of the same mental processes, there are more likely to be misunderstandings and arguments that lead nowhere. Reading up on the cognitive functions can prove extremely beneficial. It’s vital that both types work hard to understand each other. It’s especially crucial that they avoid condescension or patronizing comments. When these types DO understand each other, there can be huge levels of growth because they both offer a perspective that the other is lacking.
INFJs and ISFJs
This romantic relationship feels as warm and cozy as a soft, fluffy blanket on a crisp, autumn evening. Both ISFJs and INFJs are drawn to each other because of their mutual consideration, empathy, and quiet reserve. They both respect each other’s space and are highly considerate of each other’s emotional and physical needs. This duo usually creates many meaningful traditions that draw them closer as time goes by. They often enjoy expressing their love through letters, gifts, and symbolic tokens.
Problems can arise in this relationship because of how differently each type perceives the world. INFJs absorb information through Introverted Intuition, and ISFJs absorb information through Introverted Sensation. Because of this, INFJs might seem lost in fruitless imaginings to ISFJs. Likewise, INFJs might find ISFJs too tied to past experiences and day-to-day events. They might push each other beyond their comfort zones if they aren’t careful. Reading up on the differences between Intuition and Sensation can really help this duo! That said, this is still one of the most successful relationship pairings I’ve seen.
INFJs and ISTJs
A rare romantic pairing, INFJs and ISTJs can be drawn to each other for the very things that set them apart. In the ISTJ, the INFJ sees someone who is dependable, straightforward, and knowledgeable. In the INFJ, the ISTJ sees someone who is goal-oriented, insightful, and empathetic. Both types prize reliability, and both respect each other’s need for personal space. That said, this relationship isn’t exactly conflict-free. INFJs find ISTJs very difficult to read, and may struggle to understand what’s going on emotionally with them. As INFJs push for more open communication, ISTJs can feel put upon and annoyed. They may lash out at the INFJ or seclude themselves further rather than reaching out. In the same respect, ISTJs can feel that INFJs trust their intuition too adamantly. They may push the INFJ for “proof” of their insights, only to annoy the INFJ and cause them to retreat. If both types can try to understand each other’s differences then this relationship can be very successful. You can find out much more about this relationship pairing in this article: The INFJ and ISTJ Relationship.
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