INTPs are known for their inventiveness and creativity. These analytical types prefer to stay out of conflict as much as possible, but when they do have to face it they tend to use their creativity and ingenuity to find unique, one-of-a-kind solutions. They can enjoy a lively debate or a friendly argument, but emotional conflict or tension in relationships can drive them to withdraw from people and the tumultuous emotions in the atmosphere.

“At work I’ll explicitly give up responsibilities and authority if they come at the cost of too much conflict.”
– J. Michael, an INTP

INTPs experience the most conflict when they are in highly-charged emotional environments, when they are dealing with irrational people, and when they are stifled or forced into rigid structures. INTPs want freedom and space to explore, to analyze, to discover. Being around intense, overwhelming emotions triggers their inferior extraverted feeling (Fe) function and can cause them an enormous amount of stress. As highly rational individuals, having to communicate entirely on an emotional wavelength is exhausting for them. Having tight boundaries placed around them can also make them feel trapped and controlled. Unlike many other types (particularly SJ types), INTPs tend to dislike routine, structure, and a predictable schedule.

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How The INTP Responds to Conflict:

According to the MBTI® Manual, INTPs have a “compromising” conflict style. They view conflict as a necessary part of life and will try to remain as logical as possible when finding a solution. They want time to analyze the situation from all angles before facing it head on. INTPs don’t seek out conflict, and tend to try to ignore it unless they deem it especially important to address. When they do address the conflict, they will consider pros and cons, cause and effects, and creative solutions. They will want to hear other people’s perspectives, but will quickly lose interest if they have to listen to emotional reactions for very long.

“My banes are situations that seem like they should have fixes but don’t, as well as being in conflict with people who can’t get beyond overwhelming emotion to help me understand what’s going on.”
– Douglas, an INTP

Mary, an INTP I spoke with online, said that to resolve marital conflicts, she and her husband schedule weekly outings where they discuss their various positives, negatives, and bounce ideas off each other. She states, “It has to be enjoyable, too…I make a point of making it enjoyable otherwise it could become a fixture of dread.” This is a perfect example of INTP creativity. I loved hearing how Mary could turn something like conflict and disagreement into an enjoyable weekly experience that was full of open, non-judgmental conversation.

What INTPs Want During Conflict:

– Fair, reasonable, open-minded discussion

– A focus on the pros and cons

– A logical approach

– Input from all sides of the conflict

– An innovative, creative resolution.

Things that help us are a logical capacity in others.. and an ability to accept what is likely to be a freethinking and perhaps off the wall worldview.. so heavy handed, rules based individuals are out. Things that are unhelpful are authoritarian personalities and those lacking the ability to bring a logically integrated set of ideas to the table.”
– An anonymous INTP

Tips for INTPs Experiencing Conflict:

  • Embrace your creativity as you think of unique solutions to the problem at hand. Don’t be afraid of expressing your out-of-the-box strategies and ideas.
  • When dealing with Sensing types, try to focus on clear facts, and speak through your case in a sequential order. Refrain from “jumping around” from one idea to another or one section to another. This will frustrate them.
  • When dealing with feeling types, try to validate their emotions even if they may seem frustrating to you. State your logical perspective, but try to do so without discounting what they feel or their desire for a harmonious resolution.
  • Don’t put off dealing with conflict for so long that eventually you become overwhelmed and “blow up”.

INTPs can often hold quite complex ideas in their minds.. so that if you do not say *what you mean* when you’re having a conflict with them you’ll be doing the whole process a great disservice. They are going to try to make a weighted judgment based on that and if it doesn’t reflect your true priorities then they’re not going to be able to help you. Mind games is a bad idea.”
– An anonymous INTP

“I much prefer to be able to say “here are some facts and do with them what you want” over getting into an argument about differences of opinion. See, if I say “here are some facts”, and someone wants to argue about the factual content, I can always back up and explain and define and explain and eventually we get to the point where it is either clear to the other person that I’m saying stuff that is true or I can say, clearly, “We apparently disagree on [some factual statement] and it’s not worth our time to go on here”.  There’s never really an argument possible about the “do what you want with them” part of it. If I come back later and say something like “I think these facts require more urgent action than you appear to”, the other person can disagree and we can both get what we want – i.e. they get to ignore me and follow their own prioritization, and I can walk away with some kind of smug dysfunctional belief that whatever happens from here on out is Not My Problem.”
– J. Michael, an INTP

What Do You Think?

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