INFJs are one of the more misunderstood personality types out there. While there is an abundance of articles written about them, very few are highly accurate. As an MBTI® practitioner I’ve found that the INFJ is one of the most frequent types that other people mistype as, and as a result, there’s a lot of misinformation being spread around about the type. What is it really like to be an INFJ? What are some characteristics they nearly all share? That’s what this article will address!
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10 Things You’ll Relate to if You’re an INFJ
#1 – I get “flashes” of insight that seem to appear out of nowhere
No, I’m not a psychic, but I frequently get sudden images or insights in my mind that reveal how something will play out or the implications of a decision or plan. Why does this happen? My brain is constantly synthesizing information that I pick up through my inferior function, Extraverted Sensing (Se). It combines this information with unconscious data and symbolic images that have been stored away in my mind. This process of synthesizing information is done nearly unconsciously, which means that when I get a sudden epiphany, I don’t always know where it came from or why.
#2 – I believe nearly everything is more complex than it seems
I don’t take anything at face value. Like an onion, everything in life has many, many layers and deeper meanings. I’m always trying to find out what that deeper meaning is and get to the most hidden layer. I enjoy complexity and I’m even disappointed when something turns out to be especially simple or obvious.
#3 – I’m highly strategic
A lot of INFJ descriptions talk about our feeling tendencies, and while those are certainly a major part of our personalities, our strategic skills are often ignored. I get hunches or insights into a future possibility or likely outcome and then I work my way backwards to see how to reach that. I’m very good at envisioning a goal and figuring out how to get there. I’m quick to pick up on implications, possible roadblocks, and the best routes to take to reach a future idea or possibility.
#4 – I dislike repetition and prefer to find new ways to do things.
Doing things repeatedly in the same fashion makes me feel bored and irritated. I want to find new ways to do things, experiment with a new path, and pioneer a new road rather than follow the beaten path. I need chances to be creative, innovative, and experimental.
#5 – I tend to procrastinate
Yes, I know, I know, I’m a J type. That means I should be super decisive, right? Wrong. I have to know the implications, nuances, and the long-range scope of a problem before I’m ready to move forward on it. I’m actually a dominant perceiving type (my dominant function is Introverted Intuition, a perceiving function). While I enjoy having closure on major decisions, I also need plenty of time to really think something through and foresee how it could play out before I decide to take action. That said, when I do make a decision, I’m usually very certain about it.
#6 – I take on other people’s feelings
I have this weird, sometimes frustrating ability to “feel” what other people feel many times. When I’m with someone who’s sad I feel sad, when I’m with someone who’s happy, I feel happy. Sometimes it feels beyond my conscious control. This is one of the reasons I really want the environment I’m in to be harmonious and I try very hard to make sure the people in my life are cared for.
#7 – I’m an introvert, but that doesn’t mean I hate people
I care deeply about others, and while I need frequent alone time, I still want to connect deeply with my fellow humans. I enjoy one-on-one deep conversation and I want my goals to have a positive impact on humanity. I believe that a good life is one that improves the lives of others.
#8 – I have random bursts of impulsivity
Most of the time it’s difficult for me to act in the moment and be totally spontaneous, but every once in awhile, especially when I’m stressed, I get the urge to be wildly impulsive. Sometimes this is good and I do something really freeing like skydiving or telling someone how I really feel about them. Other times this can be a bad thing and I do something physically risky or make a rash, thoughtless decision.
#9 – I feel responsible for the feelings of others
I feel it’s my duty to take care of the needs of my family and close friends. It’s hard for me to put myself first because I usually think of what everyone else needs first. If someone I care about is hurting or in pain I can’t rest until I’ve figured out some way to help them or show them I care.
#10 – I’m obsessed with theories
The more abstract and complex the theory is, the more I’m drawn to it, like a moth to a flame. I enjoy analyzing, categorizing, and deciphering the accuracy of these theories, but I’m also good at seeing inconsistencies and throwing out theories that don’t add up. The reason this is so appealing to me is because I get to use my dominant function, Introverted Intuition (Ni), and my tertiary function, Introverted Thinking. Being able to use both at the same time often feels comfortable and creative and fun for me. Sometimes I can take this too far, though, and get stuck in “hyper-analysis” mode and not want to leave my room!
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