The Rare ISTP Female
“It’s no use trying to intimidate me…I have no sense of fear.”
– Yulia Tymoshenko, Prime Minister of Ukraine and rumored ISTP
For the ISTP female, life can feel a little bit like falling down an unfamiliar rabbit hole. ISTP girls are often seen as “tomboyish” or “unusual” and pressured to fit into a more stereotypical nurturing role. Many ISTP women feel like fish out of water throughout their day-to-day lives and are not recognized for their unique strengths and contributions.
ISTP women comprise only 2.3% of the population. They are known for their private nature, their deep analytical abilities, and their quick wits. The ISTP woman has an incredible number of strengths, but also some struggles that they have to deal with in a world that expects women to fit a more traditional feeling role.
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The ISTP Female and Isolation
ISTPs are known for being reserved and pragmatic. They make decisions based on impersonal analysis rather than worrying about value-laden or emotion-driven criteria. This characteristic alone tends to set ISTP females apart from the majority of other women. 75.5% of women in the U.S. are feeling types, which means that the majority of women are going to make decisions based on personal values and/or the harmony of others. While there’s nothing wrong with this preference, it leaves thinking females feeling isolated or misunderstood in their surroundings.
Historically speaking, there are very few ISTP women spoken of in history or in books. The ISTP woman or young girl may feel that there are very few literary females or role models that she can identify with. Many ISTPs are identified as “handymen”, and more traditional types may see the ISTP’s interests as “unladylike”. Countless ISTP women have felt pushed and prodded into a role that conforms to a more traditional feeling role.
The young ISTP girl will probably favor climbing trees over throwing tea parties, she will more likely spend her allowance on books or roller blades than dolls or nail polish. While these interests should be met with joy, many parents feel they must continue to coerce these girls to enjoy more classically “feminine” pursuits. ISTPs who are accepted and recognized for their strengths can be nearly unstoppable in their gifts, skills, and abilities.
“I’ve always felt like a failure because I can’t process emotions like my other friends do. When I finally discovered I was an ISTP I felt such a sense of relief in knowing I was just a normal ISTP, and nothing was wrong with me.”
– Kathy, an ISTP
“Draining” the Inferior Function
ISTPs can strategically use their feeling preference (Extraverted Feeling is their inferior function) however, they don’t enjoy dwelling on their own emotions for long and they prefer to make decisions based on logical analysis over values. Having to take in an excess of emotional stimulation from others can be frustrating and draining for the ISTP. Surrounded by more typical feeling females, the ISTP woman may feel overburdened by having to continually depend on her inferior function to navigate the emotional waters of her friends. Long term, the ISTP can experience stress and overwhelm as a result of heavy leaning on Fe. That said, many ISTP females enjoy relationships with feeling types as long as their friends are open-minded and don’t push them to conform to their own preferences.
Many ISTP females I’ve spoken with prefer to spend time with their male friends, where they have a much greater chance of meeting a like-minded soul. 41.7% of the male U.S. population are ST types, and it can be refreshing for the ISTP to enjoy the companionship of people who process information and make a decision in a similar way.
ISTP Female Career Field Struggles
ISTP women are often drawn to technical career fields and enjoy jobs that provide tangible rewards and physical hands-on opportunities. I found this article online that says, “But by breaking from societal norms, they find themselves in direct competition with their male colleagues. It is sad that when an ISTP woman excels at work, so far removed from traditional roles, it becomes major news, whether it is a women who gets a court order to become a municipal firefighter or a sports reporter who finds herself in a locker-room dispute. Such over-dramatization, while perhaps encouraging to other ISTP women, tends to make the individual the exception instead of the norm for a considered section of the population. Furthermore, with the media involved, sides tend to be taken immediately – men versus women — and the real occupational desire and the potential contribution of the ISTP gets lost in the process.”
ISTP women that I’ve spoken with have excelled in numerous career fields; I’ve met entrepreneurs, artists, surgeons, and auto mechanics. Many said they had to jump through several hurdles to be accepted in more male-dominated environments.
The Strengths of the ISTP Woman
ISTP females have a lot of unique gifts to offer the world. It’s really a shame they make up such a small percentage of the population because we could use more women with their strengths!
#1 – ISTPs are Excellent Troubleshooters
You’ll rarely find an ISTP woman waiting for someone else to come along and solve a problem. They are independent and excellent at getting to the root of an issue. They tend to keep a steady head in a crisis and focus on logical analysis and quick, dependable resolutions.
“Being thrown into the deep end is the best way to do something.”
– Anna Kendrick, a rumored ISTP
#2 – ISTPs are Physically Adept
Not all ISTPs are athletes or warriors, but many of them have great physical coordination and awareness. Dario Nardi, a UCLA professor who has done studies on the neuroscience of different personality types, has said that ISTPs are the most adept of all the personality types at integrating visual-kinesthetic data. Nardi says that they use brain regions that give them sharp object identification skills and motor skills such as aim. The ISTP female is often able to perform “handyman” tasks without much trouble and has a certain grace and coordination that makes her excel in athletics, art, dance, or in medical or technical career fields.
#3 – ISTPs Are Non-Judgmental
While ISTPs may not seem especially warm or exuberant to everyone, they can actually be very open-minded friends. They like to take their time before making judgments and they prefer to “live and let live.” You’ll rarely see an ISTP gossiping about someone or talking badly behind someone’s back.
#4 – ISTPs Have a Logical Focus
ISTPs lead with a mental process called Introverted Thinking (Ti). They are quick to understand logical principles and enjoy expanding their knowledge base and organizing and classifying an internal library of solutions and facts. If you want an unbiased, logical perspective on a decision, the ISTP is the one to go to.
“A bit of logical thinking gets me through something particularly hard…Then I recover very quickly. I’m not a ‘dweller.”
– Emily Blunt, a rumored ISTP
#5 – ISTPs Are Realistic and Down-to-Earth
The ISTP female is an extreme realist. She takes what is and makes the most of it, often seeing opportunities where others don’t. The ISTP is aware of what’s needed in the moment, what makes the most practical sense, and how to invest her energy wisely. This down-to-earth realism is often matched with a witty, clever sense of humor.
“I think my head’s on pretty straight, and I’m pretty realistic about things.”
– Scarlett Johansson, a rumored ISTP
In Conclusion…
ISTP women may have a tough road to travel to reach understanding and acceptance from their peers and families. However, with their own self-acceptance and confidence, they can be much-needed forces for improvement in the world. Their quick-wits, their logical thinking abilities, their realistic focus and overall resourcefulness make them intriguing and impressive individuals.
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Good article. I am an ISTP female and I have often felt misplaced in the world when comparing myself to other women. I don’t have quick access to my emotions and when asked how I feel about something it can take a few days to logically figure out exactly how I feel. I’m a complete realist, live in the moment and enjoy adventurous activities. I’ve had to work at not comparing myself to other feeling women because I have gifts they do not have and that makes me unique.
I’m really glad you enjoyed the article. I’m sorry you’ve often felt misplaced, comparing is so difficult, especially when such a vast majority use a different preference! ISTP females are a rare and much-needed type in our world! It’s a shame there aren’t more of them 🙂
As a kid, I never struggled with comparing myself to other females, because I was fortunate to grow up around boys. I was always one of them. My dad owns his own landscaping company, so I spent a lot of time outside playing in dirt, making forts, and running through the woods. When distant relatives gave me dolls, I’d build houses for them and lose interest from there. Legos were the best and Mulan was one of my favorite Disney characters.
Where I did struggle was with not realizing my inner feelings and not understanding why I don’t have the same motivations and interests as others in general. I’m more of an independent explorer who is content with the personal challenges and experience instead of trying to lead/manage others. I’ll problem solve all day long, but ask me to maintain something and my interest dwindles. Discovering that I’m an ISTP was the best thing that ever happened to me, because I am different and there is nothing wrong with that.
To this day, the vast majority of my friends are males. I just can’t relate to other female’s interests and concerns, so it would be awesome to meet another ISTP female.
Problem solving and adaptability are definitely two of my strengths as a female ISTP. I challenge myself to complete objectives, just to see if I can do them. One was to record a solo album. Once that was done, I decided to study law. When I’m working towards completing a challenge, my interest in doing so keeps me focused to the point of being obsessed, but as soon as it is achieved, my interest wanes. Since high school, I’ve found I’m great with assignments and project work, and lack focus when having to complete required reading or reading theoretical books. I can comprehend them easily enough, but I will refer to them if and when I need to.
As for relating to other women, I have trouble due to a lack of common interests. I rely on my sarcastic and acerbic humour to get me by. Otherwise, I will keep to myself.
I’m happy to have found this conversation. I am also a girl with the same type of personality and have had the same struggles relating to other girls.
I feel the same way and I’m a 26 year old ISTP woman. Most women in my experience have been dramatic about things I just don’t care about, as well as overly competitive with one another for trivial things like male attention and what not. As a result I’ve always been one of the guys and found that the only type of women that get me tend to be logically inclined.
It would be nice to meet one in my area that’s level headed that I can relate to, though.
I have known I was an ISTP female for 30 years. At 4 years old, I remember my fascination on opening my grandfather’s toolbox and selecting the red wooden knobbed hand drill and intently driving the bit over and over again into the dirt. I never desired dolls and yet I was still a girl who only wore “play dresses”. I rode a bike before my 5th birthday and then with 7 older brothers I learned how to use tools for bicycle maintenance and repairs. At age ten I completely stripped my bike of it’s parts just to paint it pink.
Life at home was fun, stimulating and filled with activity. Primary school however was difficult and isolating for me. While I learned to tolerate these years and performed well in scholastics and sports, I felt alone and even mocked. Work life can often feel the same. Most others are not open to non traditional females. We have traits more common to me. OtWomen can feel threatened by our This article was enlightening. My type is an extreme minority a
I’ve always gotten either ISTP or ISTJ when taking the MBTI. I feel like some of both. I definitely don’t seek out dangerous situations but I believe in freedom and giving other people space. I was in the Air Force. I worked on airplanes. I loved the problem solving part of that job. Then I got a degree in education so I could teach Math, which I love, but I find dealing with people draining and frustrating. I was thinking of going to school to be an electrician but I’m 36, so I feel too old and I’m a woman who lives in the South. GRR.
I am an ISTP female and this fits me to a T! I work in construction management and am literally often the only female at the table. I’m generally misunderstood–much to my own bafflement. I feel like an open book!
I am an ISTP female and I wish I had known about this while growing up. While choosing a course in college, I was really lost because I felt like I could do anything and I will excel in most – cant choose just one. My family was suggesting I take courses taken by the female majority but there was no appeal. I now have a career in HR systems where I think ISTP females can excel. Working with technology in an domain where there are more women seems like a good fit for me. I hope to continue working with analytics and I hope to see more ISTP women in those areas.
Another ISTP female here! Fun fact: I’ve taken various Myers & Briggs tests over the last 10 yrs of my life (I’m 28 and took it for the first time freshman yr in college), and I have never failed to get an ISTP result!! Pretty cool and shows you how accurate it is. Anyways….this fits me to a T. I am independent to a fault almost, and would rather hike/travel/camp etc. alone. I graduated in an Engineering discipline, get bored easy, hate reading theoretical books, was a legos kid, etc. I am on the hunt for a new career path and even the type of place an ISTP would thrive in (currently live in socal and I don’t think this is it!! haaa). Oh did I mention I get bored easy? 😛 KEEP ON KEEPIN ON ISTP FEMALES!!
Hi, me too : female ISTP
Not the easiest personality for a woman, right?
Im 52 and I would love to know all this at your age. take advantage of it, we ISTP are awesome when we do what we want. so try to find out what is it that you want, passion or mission, and practice it. We are quick learners and you are young. That is the key to the best of you, mostly as ISTP, do that that will keep you interested
keep me posted, I dont know any other ISTP that Im aware of. Read also the general comment I left. Good luck,
Paola
I’ve only taken it twice, once in 2013 and once today, and got the same result, too. The two engineers I know trash talk mechanics all of the time but it’s rewarding to take things apart, clean them, and put them back together. Maybe a more hands-on kind of job? I also loved legos as kid. Still love them, though, because my kid loves them too. 🙂
Omg same
Hi, me too : female ISTP
not the easiest personality for a woman, it gets harder with age and the communication problems are real.
we are not good future planners, but future arrives sooner than expected and nothing’s ready.
Im still very popular, but often I struggle with others and very few people get me. this confidence they talk about is often seen mostly by other women as arrogance.
im permanentely judged and everybody has an opinion about my personality and WE dont like being told what to do, right??
Very important, other ISTP say the get bored easily. I never get bored, NEVER. Yes, I quickly loose interest in things im not passionate about, at work for instance. But im never bored, I always have so many things to do, feel, hear. read, observe, think, fix….and I dont need anybody to entertain me, so Im never bored.
So again, not the easiest path for a woman’s life, but, no doubt, a very interesting one!
Paola
I also never get bored. Ever. But I thought it was because I had an Uncle who told me as a kid that boredom is the product of an undisciplined mind, and that interesting people never get bored. So I endeavored to stay occupied, always. It worked, far as manufacturing a habit.
Thank you for making that statement. I “stopped” being “bored” at a very young age. I personally believe that the word in itself is dirty or taboo. “Only in ignorance will one find boredom”. – Me
“It’s truly a wonder thing, when one can engage and flourish in the company of ones own self.”
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I do sometimes wish/long for, the day I may stumble into someone similar to me. To not have to elaborate on every subject or matter at hand. Time/energy spent in responding to someone inquiries, just for it to be disregarded and forgotten. * a girl can dream*
See? Never bored. There’s always a topic/rant to embrace and extinguish.
Final note: ISTP females use too many commas. I have to force myself to use periods.
Seriously, watch yourself some time, go back and count em’.
Awesome that I wandered into this website and read the other posts by some of the other 2.5% female population ISTPs! I always knew I was “different” then my peers growing up but never drove into the information and learned exactly that meant until recently. I am 32 years old and I live in southern California. Thank you for posting. Feel a rush of relief that maybe some other girls out there can have each other to talk to if needed!
Female ISTP
I’ve been frustrated trying to take classes lately for accounting or business. Stable “normal” office jobs that would get me where i needed to go, right? I hate it with a passion. Its not that I CANT do it, i just find myself waking up every day dreading my boring future. I don’t want an office job and have this craving for making things, but realistically those dreams will never make enough of an income to live.
I am relieved the reason for this passion is simply because of the personality I was born with, but gosh I don’t think I can live with a job that’s so under stimulating. Unfortunately as a 5 foot female I can’t do certain jobs that involve brute strength.
You can tell i’m getting desperate because i’m posting on some random website to equally random strangers, but maybe some advice from any ISTP women who went through the struggle of searching for a career that fits you?
Thank you
I am still looking for that career myself. It’s frustrating as I am 5ft too. There’s nothing touch we can do. I was going to become a police officer but having mental health problems this has become a ba arrier. So I’m not sure what I could do. I look forward to replies. I would say become a fitness trainer if that suits you
ISTP female here, learning about my personality has helped a lot. Was voted “most independent” in high school. Tomboy all my life. Always struggle with relationships as I can unwittingly be insensitive. I am a medical director at a humane society and a veterinary surgeon. Love the hands on daily problem solving! No day is the same. However I struggle as a manager because I have little patience for inefficiency and can unintentionally be insensitive. I had always suspected that people had a hard time with me because I was “acting like a man.” Now I get that that’s partially true.
Its a real struggle for us ISTP ladies. And, I only just started to learn why my family, friends and almost everyone I meet thinks I’m weird. I love computers always wanted to work with them. Never had luck holding down a job because I get bore with it sooo easily, if I find it or even people uninteresting I just move on. I am often thought of as being insensitive and cold. trust me , none of this is intentional I just get frustrated when I have to process too much emotions or small talk. I just want to see results. I dont care who you are if you cant complete a task efficiently, in my book you are a loser. There I go again with the insensitivity. I absolutely love my personality type though. Learning more about it has helped me to accept myself more fully. I will not try to change who I am to please anyone. Never been something that I favored, and never will. Keep rocking ISTP FEMALES!!!!
Another ISTP female here and an engineer by profession. I don’t have many female friends. I’ve always thought it’s because I’m in a male dominated career field. But actually I find it stressful to always be watching what I say around women and i subconsciously distance myself. It’s also hard for a single ISTP woman, when your male friends’ wives/girlfriends don’t always appreciate when a single woman is hanging out with their men.
Sometimes I feel that the ISTP female gets overly labeled as a stereotypical tomboy. As an ISTP female, I am a lower elementary school teacher, the favorite teacher in fact because of the love for fun and creativity, not a fireman or a sports writer. I an an introvert but I live for fun and laughter with those I am closest too. I also enjoy pranks, mischief, and comedy.
Interesting to read all the comments. I’m from the UK and in my forties. So recently did my first personality test at a new job(tests are not common here). I was dreading it, I knew people would find out that I’m different! I was a tomboy that joined the military as an engineer which was a great fit, but when I left to become a mum and took part time office jobs to make ends meet I learnt that I had to ‘fake it’ to fit in with the female environment. I wonder if many of you have to do the same.
Another ISTP female sitting here with my printer in pieces because it wouldn’t turn on and I want to know why. If your lawn mower breaks, I’ll have a go at fixing it for you, even if I’ve never taken one apart before. Growing up I was labelled a tomboy, always preferring to hang out with the guys (and still do). Can’t stand vapid parties, air kisses, and social schmoozing. One of the fastest ways to frustrate me is to put me in a brainstorming group – let’s go already. Because I get bored sooooooo easily, I need work high in random variety that includes an adrenaline kick, and I thrive in activities that seem high risk to everyone else. Need someone to drop everything right now and pop over to the other side of the world to complete a task? I’m your person. Seriously, my bags are packed – hire me.
This guy is funny, and although it is a little extreme, it is not too far off for me, or most of us, probably.
Watch “ENFJ and ISTP in an Elevator” on YouTube
https://youtu.be/YYmy8ChPALo
Omg. Love it…..so me too! I think i ONLY LIKE fellow ISTP women who rock! All this time not liking girly girls or girly guys yet attracting them like flies. Now, i feel more inspired to meet more like minded ISTP folk.
Oh my goodness! This is priceless. I was raised in the south and everybody in my family was an SFJ. My dad was very supportive though. When I was 10 years old I changed the tire on his car when it was flat without any help or instruction. Then I got into riding horses so I was outside all the time. As a teenager I started jumping horses and I jumped as high as 6 feet so that fit my need for excitement and adventure. I’ve had so much trouble getting along with women though, Especially my sisters. I’m 65 years old now and I understand things a little bit better but I still live in the south and I really can’t relate to very many women although that’s all that I’m around now. Learning about type saved my life literally. Boom suddenly my life made sense. I got into type very deeply and was always surrounded by NFS at conferences, meetings etc. I can smell SFJ a mile away and I stay away from them. There is no hope. I can’t tolerate the J when it’s packaged with the S and the F.
I was a stay at home mom until I got divorced at 38. Then I went to nursing school. I became an RN but quickly switched to travel nursing. That fit me just fine. A three month commitment and I can schedule a six week vacation after the end of that three months if I wantEd to. I Was on the code team and loved responding to emergencies. And I felt I was very good at that. Also was good at hands on things medically.
I love type so much I became certified and my best friend and ENFJ and I started a consulting business. I thought he took too much time to explain things and he thought I Was a pro at only saying as few words as necessary.
Thank you Susan for doing an excellent and correct job with you site!
Thank you & thank you once again. A ISTP Lady (as a mate) is like finding a “Perfect Bird Point– Paleolithic Tool” while popping brush for Doggies in a 7000 acre range back pasture on a cold windy winter day. I am forever pulling it out of my pocket in amazement, wonder & deepest of life’s appreciation in ‘awh’, of the craftsmanship & utility it affords our relationship investments!
Thank you for the kind words 😊
People need to understand that the ‘mechanics’ in this case is not literal but more metaphorical. I feel that ISTPS are stereotyped as handymen or sports people all the time. The mechanics in which ISTPS are inclined could have a general and symbolic meaning. n ISTP may for example be horrible at sports or handy crafts but perfect at painting or photography. Therefore his inclination is to the ‘mechanics’ of art, or languages, or dance o r singing or the mechanics of anything that interests them. I dont know why all ISTPS are supposed to be handy crafts people or specifically athetes. They can be anything they want.
I so agree with you. This overreliance on mechanic is what makes the testing mistype ISTPs. I am good with my hands so I’m always making clothes through different methods at different periods in my life but I have realised that I have a knack for structuring language and categorising concepts into categories in order to enable others use them more efficiently. I am currently studying for a PhD in communication and I am terrifically good with remembering communication theories and how specific theories fit specific circumstance in specific contexts and how a little change in a variable requires the application of different sets of communication theories. I realize that I am able to do this so efficiently because of the ISTP’s troubleshooting and problem solving ability that stems from our ability to absorb information from our environment. Coupled with the tertiary intuitive function, high absorption of sensory data can yield very accurate predictions for the future. Sometimes, it feels almost as if I’m a prophet. This is strongest trait and I have always wished an article would explain to me why I’m able to do such things. I love baking and tweaking recipes. I design and see clothes during my leisure periods even though I’m in the academia. However, due the assumption that ISTPs don’t like theories my ability with theories always gets me mistyped as INTP
Agreed, as a non-athletic ISTP the majority of the ISTP personality description suits me and then many career suggestions and hobby examples are like “what?” although I can see how I might do well in such fields. I would think that many ISTPs make choices based on a primary factor of interest, otherwise there might be a sense of being stuck. In my case, interests include writing, arts & crafts, photography, baking, song-writing, etc. which happen to be 100% based on my personal interest in the creative arts which serve as powerful expressive outlets of my inner self(nothing to do with adhering to the bulls*** traditional female role). Will however admire fellow ISTPs who excel in being a mechanic, athlete, handyman, etc. perse. Currently studying foreign languages ’cause I can see a somewhat more stable future by applying my language skills as opposed to confining myself to marketing my creativity, though interpretation of languages also requires creativity in terms conveying information and selection of words for example.
Susan, just a note to share. “You make the Difference” in my quest to better understand & not alter the dancing candle light glow of my Rarest of ISTP Female as she & we make a go of this time around on this 3rd Rock from the Sun. Keep on keeping on! I truly better understand & appreciate your investments as I journey onward through the Fog of life. . VIRTUS JUNXIT MORS NON SEPERIBET -14*
My life sucks becouse i am ISTP, i want to fix thing, i want to know about electronics, electricity and other kinda things, but i was raised without a father, and all my family doesn’t suport me in this way, they all wants me to be aphotecary, it’s fucking boring, I hate my life.
I am glad to read articles about ISTPs. I now have better understanding why I tend to fix our light bulbs on my own than wait for male family members to fix them for us. I also noticed how the world loves to befriend me but I couldn’t seem to reciprocate to all of them, leaving me with only a few trusted good old buddies. People love to come to me and confide. The problem is, when I’m in need of advice, no one seem to satisfy my intellectual needs. People come to me for band aids, betadine, cotton balls but when I ran out of stock, it’s rare to find someone who could give me another. I am still single in my late 30s, dating sites don’t seem to work out. I don’t enjoy the routinary “hi” and “hello” conversations, I prefer meaningful and deep conversations so I guess I’ll only find a soulmate with an old male friend but I only have a few of them and most of them are married already. I love to bake and cook but I tend to often break recipes and go on my own taste. During younger years, I preferred sitting beside my aunt who’s a dressmaker and watch how she sews clothes or feed and babysit my youngest sister rather than sit in the study room and work on my assignments. I love being in front of my laptop and chat with friends than going out to meet them in fancy snack shops. Ah, the wonders of being an ISTP… 💪😄
I’m wondering what being emotionally abused by mother (mostly constant criticism & non-acceptance) and two husbands (gaslighting, withholding, & demanding) would do (did) to an ISTP female. I’m also an Enneagram 5.
Sameeee! ISTP and enneagram 5
Me too 😁😁😁
I don’t know if I am one for sure but I know that if I met an ISTP I would LOVE them! I do know for certain I have some ISTP in me, and reading this I relate to the whole thing. Two stereotypes for girls/women is either the usual pretty feminine girl, vs a Tom boy. I’m not either. Just because I don’t want to go to the nail salon or I want to just stand in the rain or sit at my desk reading or crafting doesn’t mean I’m a Tom boy. I’m an in between. I still have girly characteristics, and I’m obviously still a girl, but I don’t try to hang out with the boys all the time (actually, I keep away from them. Unless they come to me, little to no interaction).
Listen to the song Tomboy by Destini Rogers. It describes me to a tee. I’m an ISTP 5.
Totally resonating! Breaking the social norm is the game plan. Live and let live is my life motto.
Good read.
ISTP, enneagram 4w5 here. Learning to Fe is a skill that I had to learn in order to reach my goal of peace and happiness. Not being in my ego makes me weak to emotional manipulation, but I can’t love with myself if I’m not caring for others, I feel it is my responsibility, so I cannot choose to shut off Fe and live in Ti/Se, even though life would be easier that way. I never did like “easy,” easy is boring.