The Top 7 Gift Ideas for ENFJs

ENFJs are known in the MBTI® community for being generous, empathetic, and goal-oriented. These individuals tend to enjoy the holidays and giving gifts and spending quality time with their friends and family. Organizing intimate gatherings and special celebrations is something they’re good at and they usually get so much joy out of giving that they may forget to think about what they want. That’s why this gift guide (I hope) will be helpful! I’ve spoken with numerous ENFJs in forums, groups, and in real life to get their opinions on gifts and I hope their input will be helpful to you!

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The ENFJs Relationship with Gifts

When it comes to gifts, ENFJs care much more about the thought than the actual gift itself. They love knowing that someone actually cared to listen to their interests and find something that they’ll truly love. They love personal gifts; gifts that show how much someone cares. Quality time and words of affirmation are the top love languages for ENFJs and gifts that embody these two things are usually at the top of their lists. If you do give a material gift, they do enjoy a hand-written note to accompany it.

When it comes to buying gifts, ENFJs look for something special and personalized for their loved ones. They try to think about all their friends and family’s interests, hobbies, and unique personalities when they shop for gifts. They are usually creative gift-givers and enjoy the whole process of hunting for just the right thing for someone they love.

The Top 7 Gift Ideas for ENFJs

#1 – Time

Quality time together was by far the most requested gift by ENFJs. Ask them out to dinner or coffee or invite them over for a game night or Netflix and conversation! Show them you enjoy their company and make sure part of the time is set aside for interesting conversation and not just activities!

#2 – An Experience

Experiences far outweighed material gifts for ENFJs. They’d much rather DO something with you than get something from you most of the time. ENFJs can be very adventurous types considering they have tertiary Extraverted Sensing (Se) and recreational experiences, concerts, and fine restaurants can be just the thing they’ll love. They can also enjoy attending a conference with a speaker they’ve been interested in or going to a movie together!

#3 – A Hand-Written Letter

This is another gift that doesn’t cost much (or anything) and can be the most meaningful gift they receive all year! Write a letter to them and let them know your appreciation for them, or remind them of pleasant memories you have together, or talk about your hopes and dreams. Recognize their positive qualities and let them know you’re thankful for their friendship.

#4 – Something Homemade

Do you have an artistic ability or a skill with baking or cooking? Homemade gifts were often mentioned by ENFJs because they love the personal touch and the thought and time that went into the creation. So if you can make a good batch of cookies or draw a beautiful picture, this may be the ideal gift!

#5 – A Game to Play Together

ENFJs love spending time with their friends, and a board game gives them the opportunity to do just that. Whether it’s an exciting video game or a party game like Apples to Apples, ENFJs will usually enjoy this kind of experience-based gift. Want a board game ideas? Check out Which Board Game You Will Dominate Based on  Your Myers-Briggs® Personality Type

#6 – A Book

ENFJs tend to love reading and they usually have a wide variety of interests. Ask them what their favorite books are or if there are any topics they enjoy reading about. For extra points, wrap up some chocolates or a candle for the ENFJ to enjoy with their new reading material!

#7 – A Gift Card For Their Favorite Charity

ENFJs are often activists and volunteers for causes they believe in and care about. Take an interest in their beliefs and ideals and see if you can find a gift card that coincides with that. Are they an animal lover? Adopt an animal under their name from the World Wildlife Federation (no, they won’t actually get the animal, but they’ll get a certificate, a stuffed animal, and the knowledge that they’re helping that animal!). You can also find a bunch of other giving opportunities at

Other Notable Mentions:

These gift ideas didn’t make the top 7, but they got mentioned enough that I figured I’d bring them up.
– Symbolic Jewelry
– Affection
– Spa Days
– Yummy treats

What Do You Think?

Do you agree with these gift ideas? Let me know your thoughts in the comments! Find out more about your personality type in our eBook, Discovering You: Unlocking the Power of Personality Type.

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  1. (ESTP here) I have an ENFJ Brother and Mother and this is a great guide!!! A quick tip for hand-written letters/notes is to start off with “Remember when *experience with both of you in it* ” You don’t even have to check if they remember it that well as long as you choose a good moment and let them know you remember and cherish it! I know it can be hard for some of us thinkers to put out the emotions we want, but if done well it can be a world of difference 🙂

      1. I’m ENFJ and my sister once showed me beautiful jewelry that I could choose as my wedding gift but I was like “You really don’t have to, these jewelries mean nothing to me. I would appreciate and be over the top happy about just a letter from you”. She anticipated me wishing for something simple but for me, that means the most! This article is totally relatable! Everything I ever wished for as gifts are portrayed here!

  2. This is scarily accurate! I’m an ENFJ and this fits me to a T. Have you made any more posts like this for the other types? I’d be curious to see those! 🙂

  3. Getting an experience is definitely something I want more than plastic junk. As an ENFJ I also appreciate gifts that are thoughtfully made. I struggle with public accolades but appreciate if they happen, they are genuine and not just an afterthought. I can usually tell when that is done. The book idea is also incredibly accurate. I love science and astronomy. For Christmas one year my students and youth leaders got me a book of the Hubble Photos and each signed the inside of the cover. That meant a ton to me.

  4. ENFJ here. I was curious about this list because whenever someone asks what I think I want for a gift for some holiday or my birthday or something silly like that, I immediately panic because I don’t like receiving gifts- I would much rather give them. Everything on this list is something I would so want! And the candle with the book is a very nice touch. A note would always be lovely.

    1. Being asked what I want for a birthday or Christmas present is always a panic attack situation! Thanks for making me feel normal within my type! Also totally accurate as gift ideas as I told my family member instead of a gift -buy a gift cert or keep the money and we will go to a nearby place to have dinner and drinks!!! True story!

  5. Spot on! The number of times my well meaning SJ friends have given me useful and practical gifts … kitchen organizers, Healthy-eating recipe books, even sneaker deodorizers (thanks for the hint!!) ????

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