Here’s Why INFPs and INTPs Get Misunderstood
Two of the personality types that I see getting misrepresented or misunderstood over and over again are the INTP and INFP personality types. These types are frequently underestimated or given one-dimensional descriptions that don’t do them justice. Why are these types so frequently misunderstood? That’s what I hope to explain in this article, and if you have any thoughts about this be sure to mention them in the comments!
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Why INFPs and INTPs Get Misunderstood
Both INFPs and INTPs have some major differences. INFPs are dominant feeling types and INTPs are dominant thinking types. However, there are some very particular preferences and functions that these two types share, let’s take a look:
INFPs and INTPs are both introverted judging types
“Wait!” you might be thinking, “but aren’t they perceivers? They don’t have a J at the end of their type code!”. This is where the Myers-Briggs theory gets a little confusing. To avoid confusion, I’m going to give you some brief pointers about personality theory before we begin.
Judging processes are what we use when we make decisions. Thinking and feeling are judging processes.
Perceiving processes are what we use when we gather information. Sensing and intuition are perceiving processes.
The J or P at the end of your type code tells us which function is the first one that you extravert, not which function is your dominant (favorite) function.
So the “P” at the end of your type code is essentially saying, “Hey! This type extraverts intuition or sensing, so they’re going to have a more adaptable, spontaneous approach to their environment”. If you have a J at the end of your type code it’s saying, “Hey! This type extraverts judging, so they’re going to have a more structured, methodical way of relating to their environment.”
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IP personality types are dominant judging types who extravert a perceiving process (intuition or sensing).
IJ personality types are dominant perceiving types who extravert a judging process (thinking or feeling).
But what does this have to do with being misunderstood?
Because INPs both introvert their decision-making process, many people are confused by their actions and decisions. INPs don’t seek external guidance for their decisions as much as internal guidance and congruency. So outside rules, standards, and expectations are less important to them than their own inner standards.
For the INFP, social expectations and social norms mean very little. The important thing is staying true to their authentic, core values which are intensely personal.
For the INTP, empirical truths and external rules mean very little. Everything must be questioned based on a highly-detailed set of internal principles and truths.
The decision-making process of INPs is often invisible to the eye.
While FJs and TJs look for some kind of consensus to form their judgments and decisions, FPs and TPs look inside to a subjective standard. This tends to show up in school – INPs tend to care much less about grades and meeting external milestones than other types. They are more concerned with meeting their own standards than the standards their teachers or their communities have placed on them. This tends to get them misrepresented as “lazy”, and many times their intelligence is underestimated.
In contrast to how they are perceived, both types are usually on the intelligent side. According to the MBTI® Manual, INTPs and INFPs are two of three types with the highest IQ scores. They are also statistically the two types with the highest SAT-V scores. Both types enjoy the subject of art in school and are usually creative. Unfortunately, this tends to backfire in very traditional schools where art and creativity are given second place to test scores and memorization.
Because INPs don’t usually run their decisions by others for outside approval they can be unfairly seen as inconsiderate. Because they don’t tend to analyze their decisions based on external expectations their choices tend to come as a surprise to many people. While an ESTJ would verbalize their thinking and decisions and might seek outside input, an INP might suddenly blurt out that they’ve made a big decision right as they are about to do it. This “surprise attack” is usually unintentional. They just don’t naturally “talk out” their decisions like J types are more apt to do. They don’t feel a compulsion to get other people’s input on what they are going to do because they judge their decisions by a subjective standard.
What INPs do vocalize are their ideas and the random connections they see in the world around them. They ask why, play devil’s advocate, and look for core motives (INFPs) or accuracy (INTP). Potential is always something they seek. They’re curious and they enjoy discussing theoretical, abstract topics like philosophy, psychology, art, math, or any number of conceptual or creative ideas. They like looking at things from unusual angles and enjoy thinking outside-the-box. This can sometimes get them in trouble or inadvertently cause them to offend others. “Why are you questioning our traditions?”, “Why can’t you just go along with what’s normal?”, “Why do you ask so many questions?“. These kinds of statements are often the bane of the INPs existence. They are often seen as impulsive even when their decisions have been the fruit of long and arduous thought. They are often accused of being “stuck in their heads” because they spend a lot of time ruminating over their decisions.
It’s All About Autonomy
INFPs and INTPs are extremely independent individuals and they hate the idea of being confined to external standards and routines. They don’t want to have dominance over other people and they don’t want anyone else to have dominance over them. They are selective about who they share their inner worlds with and because their feelings and judgments are so private, they can struggle to express them to the outside world. It’s very common for INPs to express themselves elegantly in writing or in their own minds, and then stumble over their words while speaking. Of course, there are always exceptions. Anyone can be a good communicator, but for INPs this is often a learned skill.
This doesn’t mean that INPs enjoy it when people misunderstand them or underestimate them. They often crave some sense of solidarity with others, but because they are both so individual and private, they can struggle to find the understanding they may very deeply crave.
What Are Your Thoughts?
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My name is Susan Storm, and I’m an MBTI® practitioner and all-out psychology lover. I’ve been studying Jungian typology as well as developmental & childhood psychology for over ten years. Along with blogging about personality type, I love taking care of my 5 children and staying up late reading Kierkegaard. I’m an INFJ personality type. Follow me on Facebook, Twitter, or Pinterest to find out more about typology!
As an INFP I am extremely intelligent and high functioning (I have two master’s degrees). However, I’ve learned that when I speak out in class or a meeting my thought processes need a lot of explaining. What is intuitive and obvious to me takes a lot of painstaking attention to how I communicate it before it becomes obvious to others. This can be very frustrating and create tension when at work or facing a deadline that doesn’t allow careful communication. Thus, I always try to give myself a minute or two to consider how I can best articulate my breakthrough moments before sharing. In addition, if I meet someone for the first time and sense they are not intuitive, I may steer away from certain subjects until I’ve built enough rapport to show them the soundness of my reasoning. It’s a rocky journey being an INFP, but it is also very rewarding. I have insights and can offer creative solutions to problems that no one else can see. God has gifted INPs in some very unique, amazing ways.
I’m a frequently misunderstand INTP. Teachers would tell me they were trying the whole year to figure me out and they never could. They called me “effortlessly brilliant” and didn’t seem to understand how I got to the conclusions I did. I even was once accused of plagiarizing because the teacher for some reason didn’t think I was capable of completing what I did with the time I had. Obviously she was wrong.
I’m an INTP. I find this very accurate! A great site. My misunderstanding is because of my intuition.
I am an INFP and I feel I have been misunderstood all my entire life. I was a very shy but very intelligent kid, used to be always the best student in the entire school but I didn’t care about that.
Then I did a PhD only to drop my career soon after finishing. My PhD wasn’t clearly my favourite thing. I did theatre while in my science career and then followed a radically path in life and did many different sort of jobs (social work, charities, starting my own business, sales, teaching, etc). I always embraced meaning and bring my unique being, in that unconventional journey.
I yearn for a life which is behind what we currently have. The potencial that you Susan speak about. In relationships.
I am difficult to be understood, because people fail to realise my unconventional, intense, changeable (diverse) set of inner motivations. I can wish to be a PhD one decade, an hippie in the next decade, and then a business man in the following decade, and then a family oriented person in the next. You get the idea.
I can be talkatuvr but that doesn’t mean I am.understood.
And it’s easier for me to write than to talk in an articulated way. Concepts fly in my mind, as well as emotions. Not easy to out that into spoken words.
Omg Joe, I wish I could meet you. You echo so many of my own thoughts and feelings… yeah, I’m an INFP, too. I first took the MBTI when I was 22 years old, and when I read about my type, I started crying… it was the first time I’d felt understood. I scored 27 N, zero S… that probably tells you something about why I always felt misunderstood and alone. Since I’m unaware of a way to connect with you, may I just tell you that you are NOT alone, and there ARE other people out here who understand you…
My last boss got super aggravated about all the questions I asked. 😥
This article literally put ME into words.
It put me in tears.