The Unhealthy INFJ

One of the best benefits of learning about your personality type is learning to see your blind spots and weaknesses and find effective ways to deal with them! Most type descriptions out there will describe a healthy version of a type. This is good because it allows us to see ourselves at our potential! But what if someone isn’t really at their best? What if we’re trying to type someone who is unhealthy, repressed, or imbalanced in some way? What if we’re the ones who are unhealthy or imbalanced and we’re struggling to relate to these one-sided descriptions?

Well, that’s where this post comes in. In this article, I’m going to show you how to recognize unhealthy INFJs and the weaknesses that INFJs can fall into when they don’t have balance.

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Keep in mind, I love INFJs. This article is not meant to “bash” INFJs in any way at all. Every single type can be unhealthy, this article just gives us ways to spot imbalance in ourselves so we can avoid hurting ourselves or others. It can also help us to spot when others are unhealthy and we can be more understanding of them.

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The Basic, Healthy INFJ

Healthy INFJs quickly see numerous perspectives and abstract connections in themselves and the world around them. They pick up on unconscious meanings and symbols that relate a future outcome or prediction. They are good at finding creative ideas and strategies, and they are motivated to help people. They tend to be idealistic and visionary in their approach to life. They are always trying to discern “the big picture” and meaning behind everything. You can find out more about INFJs in my book, The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic.

The INFJ Function Stack:

Dominant function: Introverted Intuition
Auxiliary function: Extraverted Feeling
Tertiary function: Introverted Thinking
Inferior function: Extraverted Sensing
5th/Opposing Role: Extraverted Intuition
6th/Critical Parent: Introverted Feeling
7th/Trickster: Extraverted Thinking
8th/Demon: Introverted Sensing

Some INFJ Weaknesses

INFJs will naturally value their top three functions a great deal. Like all types, they are at risk of having a warped perception of their other 5 functions (Yes, we DO use all 8 cognitive functions!). As a result, INFJs can see their inferior Extraverted Sensing as meaningless, purposeless, irresponsible, or short-sighted. They can repress this function, ignore it, or devalue it in other people if they’re not careful.

Because Extraverted Intuition runs in the opposite direction to the INFJ‘s dominant function, they can risk seeing it as overwhelming and confusing; a gigantic barrage of ideas that are out of focus and over-stimulating.

Because Introverted Sensing is the INFJs 8th function, they can risk seeing it as narrow, self-limiting, and needlessly picky.

Every type needs to be aware that all cognitive functions are useful and valuable. Being aware of these tendencies can help us to analyze our judgments before we make them, therefore improving our relationships with other types (in this case, our relationships with SJs, SPs, and NPs).

The Unhealthy INFJ

Unbalanced Intuition

The unhealthiest kind of INFJ will operate using a warped or distorted version of their dominant function, Introverted Intuition. They will repress their other functions and therefore become impractical and unrealistic, focused solely on their unconscious vision or image of the future.

Why Intuition and Sensing Are Both Essential

To avoid getting into this unhealthy state, we have to realize the important tie between the dominant and inferior functions. Introverted Intuition (Ni), as the dominant function is like a pole with Extraverted Sensation at the base. We prefer to use Ni but without the balancing power of Se, Ni becomes detached from reality and objective data. Se gives Ni balance, it provides the objective data, the raw, sensory material, and the sense of “realism” for INFJs to bring their ideas out into the world in a tangible, effective way. Unhealthy INFJs suppress Se to such an extent that they lose sight of the data, the real world, and the raw material. Their arguments and visions lose their accuracy because they don’t have the balance of Se.

“The inferior function both complements the dominant and creates a dynamic tension of opposites between them which serves to promote the individuation of the authentic personality….Introverted intuition that is completely untempered by extraverted sensation would be almost pathologically ungrounded, its visioning proclivity drifting off into irrelevant fantasy.”
– Mark Hunziker, Depth Typology

Does this mean INFJs should use Extraverted Sensing a lot? Not necessarily. Using the inferior function extensively can cause a great deal of stress, but we shouldn’t ignore it either. We should let ourselves be open to it and take moments to tap into it. For an INFJ this means stopping to take a breath; it means looking around, tuning into the present moment, noticing nature, the environment, and taking stock of tangible, observable facts.

“To really experience the inferior, we have to engage it in play. Such non-productive, disorganized activity is usually viewed as “irresponsible” and costly in our time-is-money world. But to develop the inferior, we must create a safe space where we can go to play and experiment despite the judgmental views of both external and internal adults.”
– Mark Hunziker, Depth Typology

When INFJs don’t do this, when they cut off their connection to Se, they become lost in their unconscious world and their visions and expect other people to follow along even though everyone else has no clue what they’re talking about. Eventually, this can lead to bitterness of others, of one’s self, and a feeling of not fitting in anywhere. These INFJs can cut off all opposing views, appear stubborn, closed-minded, arrogant, unyielding. They can also appear lonely, misunderstood, and depressed in their isolation

Unbalanced Feeling

The unhealthy INFJ tends to feel resentful of other people. Because of their auxiliary extraverted feeling, they feel pulled towards making others happy, but they see this as a distraction from their vision. They can become bitter towards the people they help, and they become easily overwhelmed when dealing with them. They may cut themselves off from people entirely, or do things to help people, but feel like martyrs in the process.


The strange thing about the unhealthy INFJ is that you may really have no idea what’s going on inside of them. Over time, through trauma, imbalance, or bad experiences, they may have realized that they don’t fit into the world, that people don’t understand them. They become secretive about their ideas, plans, and identities. They figure the less they show the world, the less criticism they will face and the less people will try to change them. They may appear isolative, eccentric, guarded, mysterious, self-absorbed, and/or resentful. Getting through a work day and forming relationships can be strenuous and overwhelming for them.

The unhealthy INFJ can play ego-defensive survival games to try to get by in this kind of a mindset. They may try to shut off their emotions so they don’t feel their own loneliness and isolation. They may start to imagine that everyone around them is thinking bad things about them or hates them. They may struggle with thinking anyone different from them is “wrong” or immoral. They will feel like it’s them against the world, and that that’s their lot in life no matter what.

This is a really difficult place for an INFJ to be stuck in, but if they realize they’re stuck in this place then they’ve taken the first step towards getting out. Counseling is very effective for INFJs who are in this situation. If that’s not a possibility then finding ways to support and use both intuition and feeling will help. The auxiliary function’s main purpose is to support the dominant and to amplify personal growth. INFJs who can make time for inner intuition, but ALSO engage in extraverted feeling in a healthy way can experience immense personal growth.

More Mild Expressions of Imbalance/Unhealth:

Not every unhealthy INFJ is going to fit the exact description above. They may struggle with certain aspects listed, but not all. Here are some other weaknesses to look out for that are relatively common with INFJs.

Because INFJ characteristics don’t often “fit in” with a world primarily made up of other types, many INFJs feel that they have to suppress their natural styles. They may also try to awkwardly use their undeveloped or non-preferred functions. For example, when there’s a conflict that needs to be sorted out, they may just jump in and say “okay, everyone stop it and make up!” without giving anyone the needed time to sort through their disagreements and find solutions.

It’s natural for INFJs to become so opposed to conflict, via their auxiliary function, that they try to sort it out so quickly that they forget their own needs, their own desires, or the needs and desires of others. In their rush to “fix” things, they don’t allow the conflict to provide any real growth or effective change.

INFJs are very attached to their ideas and visions, and as introverted intuitives, they can struggle with communicating those ideas to others. In a workplace environment, they can find it very difficult to delegate or hand over their ideas or plans to others. They can become workaholics, insisting that their way is the only right way to get something done. INFJs don’t generally like delegating work and while they can make good mentors, they can struggle with telling people what to do or handing out responsibilities.

The INFJ Ni-Ti Loop

INFJs can also get stuck in a “Ni-Ti” loop between their dominant and tertiary functions (Introverted Intuition and Introverted Thinking). Because both of these functions are introverted they naturally feel comfortable to the INFJ. As a result, they can cut themselves off from relationships and get stuck in a cycle of envisioning, analyzing, and classifying, but to no tangible avail. They can become reclusive and dismissive of people and seem overly-critical when in this state.

The “Grip” Stress Phase

INFJs who are under extreme or chronic stress can fall into the “grip” of their inferior function, Extraverted Sensing (Se). When this happens, they can become suddenly impulsive, focused on sensory details, reckless, and thrill-seeking. They may take unhealthy risks or they may look for sensory pleasure in excess (overeating, binging on TV, drinking too much, etc,.). Some INFJs find healthier ways of experiencing Se; some clean excessively or over-exercise. Some even find good ways to deal with it; they get a massage, eat a healthy meal, or spend time in nature. You can find out more about “grip” stress here.

The Effect of Shadow Functions:

Every type can feel lost when dealing with their 5th-8th functions. These “shadow functions” are more unconscious to us and harder for us to tap into.

5th/Extraverted Intuition:

INFJs can “lock on” to a vision so completely that they shut out emerging information and possibilities which come through Extraverted Intuition. They can be so firm in their belief of a hidden meaning that they are unwilling to see alternative connections. That said, at times INFJs can use a combination of Ni and Ne to enjoy brainstorming and encourage an open-minded approach to life and new possibilities.

6th/Introverted Feeling:

INFJs can disregard Fi because they see it as “selfish” and out of touch with the needs of other people. At other times, they can use Fi in an unhealthy way; becoming locked into their personal wants, feeling critical of people with opposing values, and becoming self-absorbed in their own feelings. That said, there are moments of growth where INFJs can experience Fi in a healthy way. When this happens, they to tune in with what is really important, what their authentic, individual values are, and how to stay true to their desires.

7th/Extraverted Thinking:

Extraverted Thinking tends to be seen by INFJs as overbearing or rigidly controlling. When they try to use it themselves they can spend unnecessary time trying to establish order, but doing it in a misguided or haphazard way. At times they can enjoy systematizing and organizing their outer world, but as Ti-users, INFJs are more likely to focus on inner mental organization than outer organization. This is where many times the “Judger” stereotypes don’t fit INFJs. Because INFJs have a dominant perceiving function (intuition) and because Te is their 7th function, they can actually appear much more disorganized and indecisive than judging stereotypes would imply.

8th/Introverted Sensing:

INFJs often have a tendency to ignore past data and experience. They may forget details from the past very quickly and disregard the “tried and true” method, finding it boring or overly-traditional. When extremely stressed, they may get stuck re-playing their failures from the past, feeling ashamed and embarrassed for no real purpose. As INFJs mature, they can eventually make peace with introverted sensing, and see the importance in details and methods from the past and how they tie into the context of their current lives.

Find out more about the shadow functions here.

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I Hope This Was Helpful!

Each type can be healthy or unhealthy or somewhere in between! Do you have any input or experiences to share? Let us know in the comments!

Other Articles You Might Enjoy:

The INFJ Workaholic

10 Intuition Hacks for INFJs and INTJs

10 Stress-Busting Tips for INFJs

The Four Reasons INFJs Struggle with Loneliness


I didn’t just come up with this information on my own! These books provided incredible insight into the healthy and unhealthy versions of INFJs. (Links are amazon affiliate links).

The Shadows of Type

Understanding Yourself and Others: An Introduction to the Personality Type Code

Depth Typology: C. G. Jung, Isabel Myers, John Beebe and The Guide Map to Becoming Who We Are

Was That Really Me?: How Everyday Stress Brings Out Our Hidden Personality

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  1. I’ve been studying mbti for years and thought I was an INFP (with a pervasive feeling that it wasn’t right) until I read this and your other unhealthy type descriptions. Wow does the unhealthy INFJ description fit me. Maybe because I’m a 4w5 I’ve always had a negative perception of Fe and an admirable perception of Fi? I know a lot of people ‘want’ to be INFJs but I can say that’s never been me. I’ve got much to mull over. Thanks for this.

  2. Thank you! I think you (and CG Jung) just solved most of my problems/questions that I have been trying to figure out for the past years.

  3. Similar to the last comment, I as well bounce back and forth contemplating if thee (me) INFJ is really that “special”. I tend to see myself in the INFT but only on occasion, which definately gives me the little space I need from myself at times. I tend to “tunnel” trough issues ( not to mention multiple/burdensome) with a air or confidence regardless the “circumstances” and I must say that, without offense to anyone I can only give credit and thanks to my/our Creator… for every dark valley I was guided across. With time and experience I learned to trust that warm sensation in sure other INFJS can relate too. I’m not one to believe in coincidence… and I must say…never has it ever been. Partly it isn’t such a “physic” gift, but a keen eye and attention to de-tale that tells you the story behind future events. It can get heavy and I personally feel partly responsible when things happen and I “called it”…but it’s no different than the “domino effect”…it just gets heavy over time and that’s when we need an outlet. I love what you are doing here. Truly without exaggeration, you could very well be sparing me a tragic ending to what I thought was simply put “the saddest truth”…I appreciate the reminder and inspiration you provided with this insigthful page and the view on those demons we try hide…even from ourselves at times. Only to find that that demon has really been the only one that truly understands us. IRONY. LIFE IN A NUTSHELL. 🙂

  4. Can you explain more or write another article about how an unhealthy INFJ can become healthy? I live in the rural Midwest without access to psychiatry and have a lot of the negatives described above. I’m looking for help – it’s quite a struggle when I know no one like me and get sucked into my own negative perception of myself and everyone around me. Thanks.

    1. I am grateful for your article, but as INFJ, I tell you all if you want more balance in your psychic engine, as I know it might be tough, try to read Lacan Orders, Nitzsche morphology and metaphorical world, Wittgenestein’s dealing withnon sense ,Alan Watts, Jung’s Archetypes, Shadow work and Animus Anima Logos Eros, more than anything you will need a worldview, then everything will fall on its place.

      Email me if you need me: [email protected]

  5. Hey Susan!
    I’m 13 years old.
    Since I am a kid I daydream a lot. My teachers used to complain that I don’t pay attention to the class. I used to wait when I’ll return from school and daydream in my car because no one is there to disturb me. I also do that at night. Back then I used to complete my homeworks and was having a normal life.
    But now I only daydream (very unrealistic one’s,not likely to happen) ,binge over YouTube and not completing homeworks or talking to people.
    Sometimes I have a insight about something.
    Am I an unhealthy Infj 4w5 thing or am I an infp?

    1. Hi there! Daydreaming is such a fun thing to do, especially for INF types! It is totally healthy unless it’s interfering with your life and goals too much. I think it’s normal to struggle with focus at 13-years-old and you shouldn’t beat yourself up too much about it, but I hope you can find a way to find some balance between daydreaming fun and homework or human connections 🙂 Maybe for every 30 minutes of homework you allow yourself 30 minutes of fun daydreaming or YouTube time? Is there a deal you can make with yourself in that way? I totally understsand your predicament. I have always loved daydreaming and watching YouTube!

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