I get this question a lot from readers, friends, and people who haven’t heard from me in three weeks and are trying very hard not to sound hurt when they ask it. “Why do INTJs disappear?” I’m chronically one of those people who struggles to maintain friendships, and, from speaking to other INTJs, I’m not…
ESTJs get a lot of flack in the type community; some are put off by their take-charge demeanor, others find them too brusque and rough. But at their best, ESTJs are the ones people lean on. They’re the people who take responsibility when no one else will. The ones who notice what’s broken, inefficient, unclear,…
There’s a version of “self-care” that’s become really exhausting. It’s strange because you’d think all the self-care advice would do the exact opposite. It tells you that if you’re overwhelmed, the answer is to momentarily numb out. Light a candle. Take a bath. Eat something comforting. Scroll. Dissociate. Then return to the same life that…
If you are an INFP, you probably feel this low-grade hum of overwhelm that never fully shuts off. The world feels loud, urgent, and demanding. Everyone wants productivity, clarity, output, answers, decisions, and preferably yesterday. Meanwhile your inner world is trying to metabolize meaning, values, grief, beauty, and the dull ache of being alive in…
If you’ve ever watched a true-crime documentary and thought, “Wow, this is stressful, but also… tell me everything,” then The Beast in Me is the show your intrusive thoughts have been training for. It’s moody, twisty, full of morally questionable choices, and it practically begs you to psychoanalyze every character. (Unfortunately, Netflix does not pay…
