10 Stress-Busting Tips for INFJs
“Be as a tower firmly set; Shakes not its top for any blast that blows.”
– Dante Alighieri, a rumored INFJ
INFJs are rare and unusual individuals, making up only 1% of the US population. These types are known for their visionary approach to life, their empathy, and their hope and passion for the future. They have a desire to understand people and the deeper meanings behind life itself. They are often fascinated by the existential and unknown and what lays “behind the scenes”. Unfortunately, INFJs tend to experience a great deal of stress. In fact, according to the MBTI® Manual INFJs experience the highest amount of stress of any of the types in relation to work, intimate relationships and school. INFJs are known for being perfectionists so these stressors don’t come as a huge surprise, but at the same time, INFJs need solutions for how to deal with stress as it happens!
Table of contents
- Things That Cause INFJs Stress:
- What Happens to the INFJ When They Experience Stress:
- 10 Solutions for the Stressed INFJ:
Estimated reading time: 7 minutes
Things That Cause INFJs Stress:
– Excessive Sensory Stimulation
– Having to pay attention to too many details
– Too much time spent socializing and not enough alone time
– Lack of appreciation
– Unfamiliar environments with overwhelming details
– Disrupted plans
– Criticism or lack of harmony
– Having to focus too much on the present moment
What Happens to the INFJ When They Experience Stress:
During normal, everyday stress INFJs rely heavily on their intuition to find a solution or resolution. They may hope for some vision or idea to just appear out of nowhere. They may try to look for outside answers by engaging their auxiliary feeling function. This may be why many INFJs find the help of a counselor or therapist especially significant.
If stress is chronic or extremely severe, the INFJ may fall into the “grip” of their inferior function; Extraverted Sensing (Se). When this happens, they become more impulsive, short-sighted, and possibly reckless. They may become obsessed with cleaning, exercising, binge-watching television, or engaging in unsafe, adrenaline-inducing activities. They tend to feel immobilized or trapped in a paralyzed, unproductive state without a clear focus or direction. This is very stressful for INFJs because they tend to like having a plan or vision for their life and feel lost when they can’t see a clear pathway for their future. Many INFJs experience migraine headaches or symptoms of IBS under extreme stress.
10 Solutions for the Stressed INFJ:
Reduce Sensory Stimulation
Because INFJs are so sensitive to sensory stimuli, it’s very important for them to remove themselves from stimulation when they feel they’re losing control. Many INFJs report that they feel better if they can go into a dark room and lay down with their head in a pillow, or just find a quiet place where they can take some deep breaths and get away from any noise, lights, or interruptions.
Get Some Time Alone
INFJs need to be able to get away from everything and everyone when they are especially stressed. When INFJs are around other people, they naturally harness their Extraverted Feeling (Fe) to pick up on other people’s emotional states. This can make it difficult for them to stay calm when they’re stressed because their Fe is like a radar detector that is always going off detecting outside emotions and needs. Getting away from everyone gives them the opportunity to quiet that process down and try to regain equilibrium.
Say No to Non-Essential Responsibilities
INFJs have a tendency to take on more projects and responsibilities than they can handle. Reducing the number of items on their to-do list can help exponentially in calming them down and reducing pressure and strain.
Spend Time in Nature
INFJs in the grip of Extraverted Sensing can be greatly helped by spending time outdoors in a peaceful setting. Taking a walk through the woods, sitting by a quiet stream, or laying out in the grass can help them to calm their heads. They can use this time to access their Extraverted Sensing in a healthy way, savoring every sight and sound that nature brings and trying to soak in the moment.
Exercise can help the INFJ to get in touch with a healthy form of Extraverted Sensing and get out of an unhealthy grip response. Getting moving also releases natural stress-relieving endorphins in the brain! Whether it’s taking a jog through the neighborhood or doing some yoga, any form of exercise can help them to snap out of an unhealthy stress phase.
INFJs are often very aware of other people’s emotions and less aware of their own. This can make emotionally stressful times a real challenge for the INFJ, because they aren’t programmed to organize and understand their own emotions very well. By writing out their feelings, the INFJ can effectively “feed” their emotions back to themselves. If they keep their emotions internalized, their feeling side can’t access them well at all. If an INFJ journals their feelings, they can read their thoughts back to themselves and process them through Fe to get a better understanding of how to handle them.
Get Less Serious
INFJs are extreme perfectionists and they tend to take life so seriously that they can get bogged down by responsibilities and insights that are less than optimistic. Sometimes taking a step back and learning how to laugh or even cry can be a good thing. Many INFJs report that having some form of light emotional outlet helps them to recoup. Whether it’s watching a goofy movie or crying through a sappy drama, INFJs often feel a sense of relief by letting go of some form of emotion.
Find a Healthy Sensory Hobby
When INFJs are dealing with grip reactions regularly, it can help if they find a healthy outlet for using their Extraverted Sensing. What they choose will vary from person to person; some INFJs enjoy photography, others enjoy baking, some enjoy fishing, gardening, or even watching sports! It’s good for INFJs to have a healthy sensory hobby that they can turn to when they are feeling immobilized by stress.
After some time alone, INFJs can find relief by letting out all their frustrations to a trusted friend or family member. By voicing their stressors out loud, the INFJ can then hear themselves and understand their emotions through Extraverted Feeling. Usually, the INFJ will feel sick of themselves after venting for very long. They may apologize to their friend or feel ashamed for showing “weakness” of any kind. But it’s very important for INFJs to have some outward outlet for their emotions, otherwise, they don’t have a very capable way of understanding and processing their feelings.
Do Some Light Problem Solving
INFJs have Introverted Thinking as their tertiary “relief” function. Many times they are able to work their way out of a grip reaction by accessing their tertiary function. For an INFJ, grabbing a Sudoku puzzle can be just the key out of an immobilizing stress reaction. Engaging in some light problem solving can help the INFJ to get their mind off of their problems, calm down, re-focus their energies, and then come back and face the problem in a steadier state of mind.
What Are Your Thoughts?
Do you have any stress-busting tips for INFJs? Let fellow readers know in the comments! You can also learn A LOT more about the INFJ personality type in my eBook, The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic.
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