5 Things INFPs Completely Hate (with Infographic)

So you’re dealing with an INFP. Maybe you’re dating one. Maybe you are one. Maybe you suspect your cat might be one (they do disappear to “reflect” a lot). Either way, understanding what makes these imaginative, sensitive, sometimes ethereal humans tick—and what ticks them off—can go a long way.

Let’s break down five things that make INFPs quietly seethe behind their gentle expressions.

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1. Rigidity Makes Them Want to Spontaneously Combust

You know those rules that exist for no apparent reason? The ones that squash creativity, shut down imagination, and make everything feel like a bureaucratic nightmare? Yeah, those are an INFP’s personal hell.

Structure for structure’s sake? Hard pass.

If you want to drive an INFP up the wall, micromanage their time, question their values, and insist there’s only one right way to do things. Just don’t expect them to stay around for long.

2. Too Much Socializing = Existential Shutdown

INFPs can be warm. They can care deeply about people. But social battery? It’s like the tiny flame of a scented candle—delicate, short-lived, and extinguished by loud extroverts with too many plans.

They need alone time like plants need sunlight. It’s not about avoiding people; it’s about preserving their sanity.

Fellow INP Luna Lovegood probably enjoys a quiet afternoon more than a Ravenclaw mixer. INFPs need that solitude to process emotions, recharge, and reenter the world with their empathy intact.

Push them into too many social situations and you’ll see the dark side: snappy remarks, glazed-over eyes, and sudden disappearances mid-conversation that are 90% self-preservation, 10% teleportation.

3. Confrontation Feels Like Dying a Little Inside

Some people enjoy a good argument. They debate for fun. They see tension and think, “What a great chance to hash things out.”

INFPs? Not so much.

They’d rather process their feelings in a journal, under a blanket, while listening to sad indie music and rereading The Bell Jar. Conflict feels invasive. Aggressive voices feel like they’re being emotionally tackled.

Chidi Anagonye from The Good Place is basically a poster child for how INFPs stress out during conflict. He literally gets stomach aches just thinking about having to choose sides.

Want to get through to an INFP? Skip the yelling. Speak gently. Let them reflect. Give them the emotional room to come to the conversation on their own terms.

4. Fake People Make Them Want to Launch Themselves Into Space

INFPs are allergic to inauthenticity. Not the “I’m just being polite” kind of fake—they can live with that. It’s the curated, crowd-pleasing, shape-shifting personas that give them whiplash.

They’d rather sit in silence with a weirdo who knows who they are than make small talk with someone pretending to be whoever the room wants.

Think Amélie Poulain from Amélie—she’s awkward, whimsical, deeply sensitive, and 100% herself. INFPs respect that. They notice when you’re being real. They crave it.

People who perform social scripts to climb ladders or win approval? That’s the stuff of INFP nightmares.

5. Controlling Relationships? No, Thank You.

INFPs may look mild-mannered, but try to box them in and they’ll go full rogue poet on you.

These types don’t want to control other people—but they definitely don’t want to be controlled. They have values to chase, dreams to nurture, and long walks with imaginary characters to take.

You can love an INFP deeply, but if you can’t let them be free? They will wilt.

INFPs need the autonomy to shift, grow, reflect, and change direction. Let them explore their path. That doesn’t mean they’re flakey—it means they’re listening to a deeper internal compass. (Possibly one engraved in Elvish.)

So What Do INFPs Love?

Glad you asked. These types may be sensitive and complicated, but when they’re lit up with joy, it’s something to behold.

Here are a few things that make their souls happy:

  • Long, meandering walks where nobody expects conversation

  • Artistic expression in any form (drawing, journaling, strumming a guitar)

  • Intimate one-on-one convos about life, death, and what that one dream really meant

  • Helping people—especially people who feel invisible

  • Revisiting their favorite songs, shows, or places over and over because nostalgia is sacred

  • Books. The deeper, weirder, more emotionally catastrophic, the better.

  • Animals. Because dogs don’t judge, and cats get boundaries.

 

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If you’re close to an INFP, know this: they may not always say what they feel. They may need time, space, and a lot of inner quiet to figure things out. But if you give them that freedom, they’ll show up with loyalty, insight, and an emotional depth that can make you feel truly seen.

Know an INFP? Are one yourself? I’d love to hear what you relate to—or what you’d add. Share your thoughts in the comments!

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9 Comments

  1. I hate:
    . People who talk at you and never actually listen
    . Being in an environment where several different conversations are running simultaneously. I can never tune into just one.
    . Having someone force me to change my plans at the last minute (that’s not so typically INFP, is it?)
    I love:
    . Having a whole day ahead of me with absolutely nothing I HAVE to do, so I can just follow my fancy as I please
    . Intense, meaningful one-to-one conversations with someone who can relate to me

    1. I hate that too. changing my plans at the last minute annnddd when plans are made at the last minute. I can’t deal.

  2. #1 pet peeve: Fake people. I need you to be yourself good or bad. Be real with me. Please!
    I have never understood the saying fake it till you make it.

  3. I hate being promised something and then the person not following through.
    Not because of unexpected circumstances that are understandable
    but out of carelessness and insensitivity.

  4. Personally don’t like people who practise double standards or those who insist others follow their script and do what they think is right.

    I mean, who cares if you are right or wrong.

    I ignore and cut them out as soon as I can.
    I found out some of these people do get really peeved so I haven’t figured out the next best way around it.

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