Here’s What Makes You Attractive, Based On Your Personality Type

Have you ever wondered what unique qualities draw us to different personality types? While there are MANY things (completely unrelated to type) that can be attractive about a person, there are usually a few core characteristics that make each type deeply appealing. Find out what those are here!

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What Makes ENFPs Attractive:

You are a visionary with epic and transformational ideas for the future. Your sense of wonder, imagination, and creativity is only made more appealing by your engaging, warm personality. You have a contagious energy and an enthusiasm for life that makes people around you feel awakened and inspired. It’s deeply appealing and it’s something we all love about you.

Find 3 Weird and Wonderful Secrets of the ENFP Personality type here!

What Makes ENTPs Attractive:

You are a trailblazer of innovative ideas and out-of-the-box strategies. Your quick mental energy and your enthusiasm about the future is compelling and deeply irresistible. We love your charm, yet your simultaneous bravery when it comes to disrupting traditions or debating a custom that makes zero sense to you. You’ve got humor, brains, and an imagination that we can’t get enough of.

What Makes INFPs Attractive:

Your rich imagination and mysterious, complex nature are deeply attractive. We wish that you could invite us into the world inside your mind so we could explore its beauty and ingenuity. You see meaning in everything around you and you challenge us to be our authentic selves. We can’t get enough of your empathy, vision, and sincerity.

Read This Next: 24 Signs That You’re an INFP

What Makes INTPs Attractive:

You have a fearless ability to challenge the assumptions that many other people take for granted. You question things, you’re curious, and you’re creative. You don’t care about small talk or “keeping up with the Jones’s”. Your independence and intellectual vigor is super intriguing and we want to know more about what makes you tick.

Read This Next: 24 Signs That You’re an INTP

What Makes ENFJs Attractive:

Your ability to exude a motivational-speaker/wizard aura is second-to-none. You have a way of challenging us to be our best selves while making us feel deeply and passionately understood. Your ability to spot unique human capabilities and your power in transforming perceptions is awe-inspiring. Your skill with people, your warmth, and your perceptiveness are extremely enticing to us.

Read This Next: 24 Signs That You’re an ENFJ

What Makes ENTJs Attractive:

Your take-charge, commanding personality exudes confidence and appeal. You are a trailblazer of new ideas and bold, strategic moves. Whether you’re starting a new company, pursuing the relationship you want, or learning a new philosophy, you do everything with courage and curiosity. You may intimidate people at first, but the more we get to know you the more we realize that beneath your no-nonsense demeanor is an authenticity and nobility that draws us in.

What Makes INFJs Attractive:

Your intense, perceptive nature is simultaneously scary and enticing. You seem to just “know” about people without being able to pinpoint why. You open our imagination to new possibilities and new ways of seeing the world we live in. You empathize with our hurts and cheer us on in our successes. You make our world bigger and you draw us in close and make us feel understood in a powerful way.

Find out more about the “weird” and wonderful INFJ secrets here.

What Makes INTJs Attractive:

You exude an intellectual insight and profound knowledge that is deeply intriguing. We find ourselves drawn to your confident, independent nature. At first, you might intimidate us – you seem aloof and absorbed in thought. You don’t come across as needy and you’re certainly not easy-to-read. But if we have the courage to approach you, we might find that you are full of powerful lessons about philosophy, science, and life itself. You open our minds to new ideas and perceptions and that’s super attractive.

Find 3 weird and wonderful secrets about the INTJ personality type here!

What Makes ESFPs Attractive:

Your warmth, enthusiasm, and adventurous nature are magnetic to us. You pull us out of our heads and show us all the awe-inspiring experiences life has in store for us every single day. We can’t help but be drawn in by your compassion and humor – an unusual combination, but one that keeps us yearning for more.

What Makes ESTPs Attractive:

You are the quintessential daredevil and we just want you to take us along for the thrills and excitement you personify. You don’t cave under pressure and you certainly don’t come across as needy or over-reactive. You have the charm and daring nature of a “bad boy/girl” but you also seem to just “know” how other people feel and what makes them tick. Is there anything more attractive than that?

What Makes ISFPs Attractive:

You are a blend of contradictions that intrigue us and spark our fascination.  You are empathetic but mysterious, reserved but daring, sensitive yet brave with your convictions. Your inner integrity and resolve inspires us to examine our own lives and be more true to ourselves. Your natural eye for aesthetics makes you effortlessly attractive and your creativity opens our minds to new ways of seeing the world.

What Makes ISTPs Attractive:

You have a steely, rebellious nature that is both intriguing and captivating. Nothing about you screams “look at me!” but everything about you makes us want to know more. You have a devil-may-care attitude, a wry sense of humor, and a scrappy ability to make it through any crisis situation. You’re blend of intellectuality, street-smarts, and laid-back charm make you completely irresistible.

What Makes ESFJs Attractive:

You’re someone with a strong sense of purpose and direction for your life.  We are drawn to your social grace, your warmth, attentiveness, and no-nonsense practical nature. You know how to support us in our endeavors while keeping a steady head in times of crisis. Your grounded outlook on life puts us at ease and your strong values inspire us to live for a higher purpose. There’s something deeply appealing about that.

What Makes ESTJs Attractive:

Your no-nonsense, take-charge demeanor makes us feel confident and secure. We know we can count on you to be honest and let us know how you really feel. You won’t waste our time playing games or beating around the bush. We love how much you value your family and friends, and how committed you are to your purpose and your values. There’s something deeply attractive about your confidence and steadfast nature.

What Makes ISFJs Attractive:

Underneath your warm, generous demeanor lies an individual with steely resolve and focus. You will defend your loved ones with determination and courage and you hold deeply to your values and principles for life. Your empathy and your grounded outlook on life draw us in and give us a sense of security in this chaotic world we live in. You remind us what’s real, what we can trust, and what’s worth defending.

Read This Next: 24 Signs That You’re an ISFJ

What Makes ISTJs Attractive:

At first glance, you seem serious, wise, and maybe a little on the mysterious side. But as we get to know you more deeply we see that you have a dry, offbeat sense of humor and an attentive, devoted nature. You’re someone we can count on when times get tough, someone we can rely on to be honest and true to your word. Your ability to stay calm and grounded during even the most overwhelming periods of life gives us strength and makes us admire you all the more. We are drawn to your loyalty and your principled way of approaching life.

Read This Next: 24 Signs That You’re an ISTJ

What Are Your Thoughts?

Feel free to let us know in the comments!

Find out more about your personality type in our eBook, Discovering You: Unlocking the Power of Personality Type.

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  1. As an INFP I have told my ISTJ husband numerous times that I would love for him to get inside my head and see my amazing internal world.

  2. Hello. Thank You for this site. I REALLY Love it! I just find it difficult to go back and forth from another MBTI personality site to check the assortment of letters with the names. I like learning abt other types as well not just My own. Just a suggestion. Ex. Mediator (INFP)

    1. Hi Ben! I think maybe you’re mixing MBTI up with astrology? We don’t determine type by birthdate – type is determined by your mental preferences 🙂 A good test to find your type is at

  3. Ha! I am a retired (mostly airline) pilot who was a captain for the majority of my career and it would appear that my ISFJ personality was not the ideal type according to some experts! Didn’t run into any problems though, so go figure.
    Apparently, I would have made a good nurse or doctor though…..

  4. The things you said people love about ENTPs, most people don’t love those things about my type. They’re highly protective of their irrational traditions and conflate debate and argument. Our unique style largely goes unappreciated.

    1. People are very complex. I think you need to read about the two types of intuition on Psychology Junkie or Personality Hacker and do some honest self-reflection and introspection without trying to convince yourself of anything (because thinking is fun and informative, for me anyway).
      INTJs like me lead with Introverted Intuition, and INFPs like my sister have auxiliary Extroverted Intuition. Also, regardless of whether you want to laugh, Psychology Junkie has memes for both types. Chances are that if you relate personally to one set of memes more than the other, you might have that type’s preferences. However, life experience can impact the expression of one’s type. One of my favorite ESFP YouTubers thought for the longest time that she had INTJ preferences because her life experiences taught her to behave in a much more “IxxJ” way than what I would assume is normal for ESFPs and many of the personality tests she took focused on behavior. What ultimately determines type is how a person thinks.
      Personality Hacker and Psychology Junkie have great personality tests, and Personality Hacker, I believe, offers typing sessions that cost money. (I forgot the price, though.)
      I hope that helps.

  5. I (INTJ) appreciate those things about your type.
    Maybe the NTs around you will appreciate your type’s independent, logical thinking, too.
    I also have felt frustration when people call arguments debates, insist on doing things that don’t produce good results for tradition’s sake or other irrational reasons even after knowing that their behavior does not work, and devalue what I bring to the table because I see things differently (and do not possess much skill at using my Trickster Extroverted Feeling for good). Okay, INTJs and ENTPs are different, but, as NTs, we struggle with similar types of things.

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