Whether you love country music, pop music, or rock, I think we all can agree on one thing: Taylor Swift can write a song. The singer’s vulnerability with her emotions leaves fans worldwide crying on their beds or dancing around their rooms! Her songwriting skills are beyond impressive, and the hooks are so catchy you’ll find yourself singing lyrics under your breath when you’re trying to remember something like your phone number or…the date.
Swift’s nine-album discography has touched me and millions of other fans because she’s written a song that speaks to the heart for everyone. No matter your personality or musical taste, there’s a Taylor Swift song for every genre and every topic – one of them is bound to resonate with you. Today we’re taking a look at the song that you’ll relate to most based on your specific personality type. As always, if you have a suggestion or a different opinion be sure to let me know in the comments!
Disclaimer: Some articles we write here at Psychology Junkie are focused on accuracy and a deep understanding of personality type. This is a “just for fun” article so there’s bound to be some room for error. Obviously we can’t know how every single person in the world will relate to a Taylor Swift song so we look for themes, mindsets, and attitudes that would be appealing to each of the types. As always, we welcome different opinions and perspectives in the comments!
Table of contents
- Here’s the Taylor Swift Song You’ll Relate to, Based On Your Myers-Briggs® Personality Type
- ESTJ – Bad Blood
- ISTJ – Out of the Woods
- ESFJ – How You Get the Girl
- ISFJ – All Too Well
- ENFP – ME! (feat. Brendon Urie of Panic at the Disco!)
- ENFJ – mirrorball
- INFP – Enchanted
- INFJ – Nothing New (feat. Phoebe Bridgers)
- ESTP – Getaway Car
- ISTP – It’s Nice to Have a Friend
- ESFP – 22
- ISFP – You Belong With Me
- INTP – my tears ricochet
- INTJ – exile
- ENTP – Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince
- ENTJ – Picture to Burn
- What Are Your Thoughts?
Estimated reading time: 17 minutes
Here’s the Taylor Swift Song You’ll Relate to, Based On Your Myers-Briggs® Personality Type
ESTJ – Bad Blood
Plenty of Swift’s songs (cough, almost everything on Fearless, cough) are wistful remembrances of “what could have been” if only a relationship had worked out. There’s doubt about who was actually in the wrong, regret over ending an obviously toxic relationship, and plenty of tears.
However, Swift doesn’t waste any time in “Bad Blood”. She knows that she’s not the one to blame, and won’t let her partner manipulate her into thinking she is. She sees that she can’t trust somebody, and she cuts them off. Plain and simple.
ESTJs tend to carry the same no-nonsense approach to relationship drama. They aren’t heartless, but they also hate being stepped on and made to feel small. Their patience for manipulation and guilt-tripping is low, especially when they’ve been hurt. This means that they will confront the perpetrator and stick up for themselves.
“Did you think we’d be fine?
Still got scars on my back from your knife
So don’t think it’s in the past
These kinds of wounds, they last and they last.”
ISTJ – Out of the Woods
The narrator of “Out of the Woods” expresses undying commitment. She’s in a relationship that shows her how beautiful love can be – nights spent dancing around the living room and taking Polaroids – but it undergoes trials that challenge her.
The song culminates when her boyfriend is lying injured in a hospital room, and she’s about to walk out on the relationship because it’s all too much. But they make eye contact, and she knows she can’t give up on them.
The narrator’s loyalty mirrors ISTJs’ loyalty in relationships. While they can be reserved when sharing their emotions, they are deeply committed to their partners and respect the history they’ve created together too much to pursue any unstable relationship. When ISTJs fall in love, it’s for real – and they’ll rarely ever give up on it.
“The rest of the world was black and white
But we were in screaming color
And I remember thinking,
‘Are we out of the woods yet?’”
ESFJ – How You Get the Girl
“How You Get the Girl” is an upbeat “girl meets boy” story about redemption, loyalty, and forgiveness. The boy makes his move, the girl accepts, and the couple gets together. Then the boy walks away unexpectedly only to regret it later. Later he shows up in the rain, apologizes, and she sees past his mistakes to the beauty of what they had. Through it all, you never stop believing that they’ll work any issue out and be together forever.
This inherent positivity and loyalty in this song represents ESFJs’ relationships with their loved ones. Sure, conflicts arise and feelings inevitably get hurt, but it isn’t like the ESFJ to cut anybody off or nurse their wounds alone. They strive to work through conflict so that they can fast-forward to being in harmony with their loved ones again.
Bubbly and upbeat, this is an ESFJ’s perfect song.
“I want you for worse or for better
I would wait forever and ever
Broke your heart, I’ll put it back together
I would wait forever and ever”
ISFJ – All Too Well
The reason “All Too Well” paints such a beautiful picture of lost love is the little details the narrator remembers from the relationship: Losing a scarf after a get-together. Singing together in the car. Laughing at baby pictures.
You can tell that she was invested in the relationship because months after it ended, she’s still remembering the little parts of it.
ISFJs love to hold onto memories, to revisit the past. They absorb little details during good experiences and look back on them later. They infuse meaning into the reflections and moments from their past. Details that seem insignificant to others are filled with emotion to them.
And like the protagonist, ISFJs can also ignore warning signs in relationships because they often put other people’s feelings ahead of their own. Even though ending toxic relationships is difficult for some time after they end, ISFJs will find that they are better off without them.
“Down the stairs, I was there
I remember it
All too well”
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ENFP – ME! (feat. Brendon Urie of Panic at the Disco!)
Like this song (and its music video), ENFPs are spontaneous, outlandish, and expressive. They love experimenting with new ideas, styles, and hobbies. Every day is an opportunity to reinvent themselves and explore something new. The last thing you’d ever call an ENFP is “boring.” This is because they see life as an adventure and they’re willing to think outside the box to explore creativity and individual expression.
To most ENFPs, the world is full of opportunities to grab and experiences to savor – and there’s no sense in letting other people dim that magic.
“I’m the only one of me,
Baby, that’s the fun of me”
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ENFJ – mirrorball
“mirrorball”’s distorted intro is indicative of dysfunction. The narrator sings resignedly about her role as an entertainer, as a tool to help other people realize their own potential. But as the song goes on, she breaks down and reveals that behind her hyper-attentiveness to other people’s emotions is insecurity about who she is.
ENFJs are natural helpers. As extroverts and feeling types, they are tuned into the emotional wavelengths around them – noticing every cue about how people are feeling and what matters to them. Insightful and warm, they take on others burdens and try to be encouraging and supportive. They can easily look past their own emotions to handle others’ feelings. Often the fear of social disharmony and conflict leads them to being people-pleasers.
But for the sake of preserving their own sense of self, ENFJs need to realize that they are not responsible for other people’s emotional well-being. If you are an ENFJ, know that it’s okay to be yourself in social situations without constantly accommodating to other people.
“I’m still a believer, but I don’t know why
I’ve never been a natural; all I do is try, try try
I’m still on that trapeze
I’m still trying everything
To keep you looking at me”
INFP – Enchanted
This song captures the whimsical nature of how INFPs often approach love and romance. Falling in love with somebody literally the second they meet? Check. Staying up into the early hours of the morning to imagine a future with said person? Check. Believing that being in this relationship will fix all their problems? Triple check.
INFPs are dreamy and imaginative. They can take the smallest meaningful interactions and prize them forever. It takes showing authenticity in the midst of shallow conversation to forge a connection with them, and they will treasure it always.
“This night is sparkling, don’t you let it go
I’m wonderstruck, blushing all the way home
I’ll spend forever wondering if you knew
I was enchanted to meet you”
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INFJ – Nothing New (feat. Phoebe Bridgers)
“Nothing New” is a look at the music industry’s fickle relationships with female artists – they are relevant and adored by the press at the beginning of their careers. Then, when they start to age, they are shut out in favor of younger female artists.
However, Swift’s quiet confession about her fear of being discarded is relatable to anyone who feels that they are easily misunderstood or dismissed unless they “fit in.” This has been a longstanding struggle for INFJs.
INFJs easily pick up on what’s expected of them or the “proper” way to behave. They tend to learn early on that if they put their intuitive thoughts and ideas out into the world that they’ll be met with quizzical or confused expressions. Instead, many INFJs take on the role of supporter and focus on accommodating other people. Because of their dislike of confrontation, they often keep it to themselves when others hurt them.
But underneath their careful people skills is the fear of being disliked or even abandoned.
“And my cheeks are growing tired
From turning red and faking smiles
Are we only biding time
‘Til I lose your attention?”
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ESTP – Getaway Car
Like this song, ESTPs’ lives are full of action. Their social circle is constantly being shifted around and they love to chase new and exciting opportunities. And like the song, their lives often appear to be shiny and dangerous.
However, underneath this flashiness is a laser-sharp wit, because they know what they’re doing. They often have a natural charm and are gifted at reading people’s physical cues. They can use their inherent influence over people to manipulate situations (and people) if they want to. When they’re at their best, they are freedom-loving and daring, but with an honest side that stands out. At their worst, they’re manipulative and reckless, chasing thrills at the expense of their own (or others) well-being.
“Ridin’ in a getaway car
There were sirens in the beat of your heart
Should’ve known I’d be the first to leave
Think about the place where you first met me”
ISTP – It’s Nice to Have a Friend
Strong intellectually but reserved socially, ISTPs do not settle for fickle relationships. They figure that if they’re going to spend their time with someone, it should matter for something.
When these strong friendships hit them, they’re surprised. Like the companionship in the song, it seems too good to be true – you can read each other’s thoughts without having to say much. When you sense that the other person is hurting, you make a quiet statement instead of demanding that they pour out their heart.
And while it’s not hugely expressed, love is there.
“Twenty questions, we tell the truth
You’ve been stressed out lately? Yeah, me too.
Something gave you the nerve to touch my hand
It’s nice to have a friend.”
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ESFP – 22
This song is the ultimate ode to sensory enjoyment. The protagonist and her friends are dealing with the disillusionment and loneliness that come with growing up, but they decide to set all of it aside for a fun night out, falling in love with strangers and chasing their dreams.
Even though avoidance is an inadequate solution to deep personal issues, the enthusiastic chasing of their dreams represents the ESFP spirit. There’s nothing more exciting for an ESFP than throwing caution to the wind and seizing the moment for all that it can be!
“We’re happy, free, confused and lonely in the best way
It’s miserable and magical, oh yeah
Tonight’s the night when we forget about the heartbreaks”
ISFP – You Belong With Me
There’s nobody more committed than an ISFP who feels as though they have made a real connection with somebody else. Having spent most of their lives feeling misunderstood, or apart from the group, ISFPs will stick around for somebody who makes them feel like they belong.
“You Belong With Me” is the story of a girl pining after a boy who she thinks is settling for a superficial relationship, something that ISFPs can’t stand. And it’s the story of a couple whose relationship is built on something real realizing they’re meant for each other.
“I know your favorite songs
And you tell me ‘bout your dreams
Think I know where you belong,
Think I know it’s with me”
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INTP – my tears ricochet
“my tears ricochet” is ripe with suppressed emotion, pain, and questioning. Many INTPs struggle to grapple with the emotional impacts of breakups because they feel like they can’t find the right words to express their feelings. As introverts and thinking types, they spend a lot of time in mental analysis, trying to make sense of what happened.
But even though INTPs may look analytical and detached during intense situations, they feel things deeply, but do not often feel comfortable blurting out how they feel. The protagonist is quiet for the first half of the song, mentioning concerning treatment from somebody they love before quickly changing subjects.
But when these feelings become too much to tamp down, they inevitably explode, much like the protagonists’ does in the bridge. This is screaming emotion, wanting so much to be heard.
“And I still talk to you
(When I’m screaming at the sky)
And when I can’t sleep at night
(You hear my stolen lullabies)”
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INTJ – exile
Unlike many of Swift’s other songs, “exile” is not a failed love story that indicates who in the relationship was wrong. Instead, it takes place after a relationship has ended and the man and woman run into each other. The woman is dating somebody else, and the man is jealous, even though she’s technically not his anymore.
Both blame the other for the break-up, and it’s obvious that they never had the opportunity to talk to each other about what caused it in the first place.
INTJs, while loyal lovers, are not ones for emotional complications in relationships. This means that when their partners cross boundaries, they may not communicate their hurt right away, or they may try and be misunderstood as being “uncaring”. Over time, this can add up to resentment, and the other person is quickly cut out of their lives.
However, by giving each other space to explain their motives, big fallouts like these can be prevented. The key to a longer relationship is authentic and regular communication.
“You were my town
Now I’m in exile, seein’ you out
I think I’ve seen this film before
So I’m leavin’ out the side door”
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ENTP – Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince
ENTPs have a rare swagger when it comes to tense, controversial situations. Whether it’s a classroom tense with gossip, or a toxic workplace, their confidence in their opinions gives them the strength to make it through situations that would be difficult for anybody else.
“Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince” is an allegory of today’s political climate, and Swift’s experience navigating it. There’s obvious tension as the world inspects her, dissecting her views under a microscope. However, she’s been in the game too long to be intimidated. She looks out at unnecessary internet controversies and extreme headlines, and she laughs.
“The whole school is rolling fake dice
You play stupid games,
You win stupid prizes”
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ENTJ – Picture to Burn
We all know how difficult it is to deal with the aftermath of a fallout. Avoiding the person at all costs. Wrestling with doubts about whether we were right or not. Wondering which friends are going to be on your side.
But in the ENTJs’ case, one of the worst things about a heartbreak is feeling like their time has been wasted. The combination of lost time, dishonesty, and manipulation are enough to set them off and they won’t back down from confrontation.
In “Picture to Burn”, the protagonist loses her patience with her sulky ex-boyfriend and his gossiping friends. She reiterates all the things she dislikes about him (if only he’d let her drive the pickup truck!) weeks after the break up and states that he has no power over her anymore, nothing he could do or say about her will change who she is. Nothing will make her go crawling back to a person who caused her pain.
“State the obvious, I didn’t get my perfect fantasy
I realize you love yourself more than you could ever love me
So go and tell your friends that I’m obsessive and crazy”
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What Are Your Thoughts?
Did you enjoy this article? Do you have a different song you love best? Let us know in the comments!
Find out more about your personality type in our eBooks, Discovering You: Unlocking the Power of Personality Type, The INFJ – Understanding the Mystic, The INTJ – Understanding the Strategist, and The INFP – Understanding the Dreamer.
About the Author:
Muna Nnamani is a high school senior. She’s managing editor of her school newspaper, an avid fan of personality typology, and a sucker for good books and bad television. She is an INFP 4w5 and suffers the consequences daily.
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