Ever wondered what other people notice about your type? I decided to survey the people on my email list, Facebook page, and Twitter list to figure out what they love about each of the types, starting with INFPs! Let’s take a look at what they said!
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INFPs on INFPs
INFPs will typically have a weird “mind-reading” connection with other INFPs. That said, these types are so individualistic that if they have opposing values their connection can be like a bomb about to explode. When INFPs have friendships with other like-minded INFPs they tend to feel heard, seen, and inspired. Together they can explore each other’s imaginative inner worlds, fight for similar causes, and listen to each other without fear of external pressures and rules.
“Love their sensitivity to other people’s pain. Their appreciation for details. Their ability to read & also to have a different sense of humor. Love that they can be brutally logical despite all the sensitivity. Love that INFPs are blunt and enjoy speaking the truth.” – @J253Pat on Twitter
“I love the connection I have with other INFPs. It’s one of the only friendships where I can really, truly be myself. Nothings off-limits, we can talk about anything, I can geek out about my favorite fictional characters and play them all my favorite songs. I can just be 100% me.” – Joyce
“I’m an INFP. I love the depth, compassion, insight, and openness to possibilities of my fellow INFP’s.” – Elaine Vaughn
“I am an INFP. Two of my closest friends are also INFPs. We are all funny but in different ways, good, non-judgmental listeners, quirky, optimistic at heart. We are relaxed and easy going.” – Nic
INTPs on INFPs
INTPs and INFPs have a shared love of freedom, exploration, and autonomy. INTPs prefer thinking over feeling so they may come across as overly blunt to INFPs, and INFPs may come across as overly-sensitive to INTPs. However, once they get to understand each other there’s usually a very strong bond and mutual appreciation. Both respect each other’s space to feel and think what they want and both have a creative energy that is inspiring to the other.
“I love INFP creativity and innovation (they create epic fantasy worlds and highly creative Halloween costumes). I want to acknowledge their rich inner world and I love how they honor the inner worlds of those around them. I also love their heart for social justice.” – Melissa
“I love their passionate and deeply involved souls along with the amount of pure effort and contemplation they put into what matters in their lives. It’s admirable to have such a depth of awareness and how intimately they seek to know others.” – Dan Burns, @mbti_insights on Twitter
“My best friend is INFP. I’m INTP. I love their sincerity and gentleness. We tend to have a shared sense of humor which is light-hearted and silly, which I love. I also love their creativity which bounces off of my own. In high school, my best friend and I wrote a long poem about a gay pirate named Victor Young who swallowed the sun. It was very silly, and probably a perfect example of what I love about INFPs. It was 10 pages long and never finished. Victor’s entire crew was made of women that desperately tried to gain his affection without realizing he was gay lol.” – @invertedhera on Twitter
“The INFPs in my life have been very insightful. I can discuss things and they’ll handily point out something I hadn’t yet thought of. They put their observation skills to good use. I love their loyalty. They do their best to understand where you’re coming from”. – @LiyahPresumably on Twitter
“I (INTP) think that my best friend (INFP) is one of the most accepting and supportive people I’ve ever met. She is very optimistic about everything and I kind of wish that I could have a really good moral stance as she always does what is morally right while I get caught up in the ethics dilemma when I try to do something.” – Soonly
ENFPs on INFPs
ENFPs and INFPs tend to have really close, trusting bonds. Because these types share the same cognitive functions, they tend to innately “get” each other without as much trouble as many other type pairings. INFPs enjoy the fun-loving, enthusiastic nature of ENFPs. Adventurous ENFPs can help them get out of their heads and build up the courage to try new, spontaneous pursuits. ENFPs in turn appreciate the depth and gentleness of the INFP personality type.
“I’m an ENFP and my sister is an INFP. She’s deep, soulful, yet witty as hell. I can tell her anything without feeling judged. I also feel privileged that she feels safe enough with me to share her deepest, darkest thoughts and feelings. And she’s the best mama to her cats that I’ve ever since, excepting our mother.” – Peg
“I love their seeming innocence which hides a great deal of maturity and their hopeful outlook on people. I also love their quirkiness and desire to be true individuals.” – @MagnaChristian4 on Twitter
ENTPs on INFPs
ENTPs and INFPs share a mutual love of exploration, imagination, and creativity. While these types can have some friction due to their differing judging processes (ENTPs are auxiliary thinkers and INFPs are dominant feelers), these same differences can help them grow as individuals. This friendship or relationship pairing may be a little fiery and argumentative at times, but if both types can work at understanding each other’s type preferences it can also be one of growth and refinement.
“I love that INFPs if they believe in you, believe in you to the fullest extent of their being. The joy they have when you live up to their hopes and dreams for you is so real it can be cut with a knife. They’re also loyal to a fault.” – @TundraVision on Twitter
“I love their creativity and their ability to be truly and unapologetically themselves.” – @icarusjunior on Twitter
“I can clash with them when they get into their Fi hole of gloom, but when they’re not there we have a lot of fun. I love their creativity and independence. They don’t bend for others and I respect that.” – James Wolfe
INTJs on INFPs
While these types might seem like opposites at first glance, they actually have quite a bit in common. They both look inward to their values and outwards to efficacy when they make decisions. They are both introverts and intuitives. They enjoy exploring ideas, theories, and possibilities together. They also respect each other’s personal values and autonomy. I’ve written more about this pairing in a romantic sense in my article: The INFP and INTJ Relationship
“I’m an INTJ who has an INFP brother. I like that he’s very empathic and sensitive, which I very much lack”. – Bugackt
“I love their conviction with their morals, genuine nature, and idealism.” – @slowdeeplearner on Twitter
“I really click with INFPs. I don’t feel suffocated by them like I do with most FJ types. Because we both use Fi we “get” each other without it feeling boring.” – Parker Powell
INFJs on INFPs
INFJs and INFPs share a mutual love of meaningful, deep conversation. These types tend to thrive as friends when they give each other space to be their authentic selves. While they share none of the same cognitive functions, because they share three preferences (Introversion, Intuition, Feeling) they tend to respect each other’s individual needs, empathize readily, and connect over ideas and possibilities.
“I’m an INFJ and love how INFPs are emotive. I’m a musician, and when I listen to INFP lyrics, they touch on emotion in such a personal way, and I think that’s beautiful.” – Jon
“I’m INFJ, and I love the way they always seem to know how they feel. I love how they encourage me to acknowledge and accept the way I feel. The thing that seems natural for them feels brave to me.” – @abstreet07
“I love the poetic, dreamy, imaginative nature of INFPs. Without them our world would be so much duller and less dimensional.” – Susan
ENTJs on INFPs
ENTJs and INFPs are very different at first glance, but these two types can really help each other grow. INFPs are often inspired by the big-picture, strategic, action-oriented nature of the ENTJ. ENTJs in turn find the warmth, authenticity, and imagination of the INFP intriguing. They can both help each other in contrasting ways. ENTJs can help INFPs bring their ideas to life and tap into their thinking side. They can also help them refine their ideas and create strategies for their realization. INFPs, in turn, can help ENTJs delve into their deeper feelings and values. They can also help them to see innovative alternatives and possibilities so they don’t get stuck in tunnel vision.
“I find INFPs surprisingly calming to be around. They help me to slow down and sink into myself. Time doesn’t seem as rushed and I don’t feel like they need me to prove myself to them.” – Violet McCaulley
“INFPs and I can swap a lot of insight and knowledge if we don’t judge too quickly by first appearances. Initially, I might think they’re oversensitive, and they might think I’m a monster. But once we get past surface judgments, things get really good.” – Yoko Ito
ENFJs on INFPs
Both dominant feelers, ENFJs and INFPs can have an intense and inspiring friendship or relationship. They are both idealists and dreamers, ENFJs exuding warmth and openness and INFPs contributing a quieter, subtler empathy. ENFJs can help INFPs bring their ideals into the world in a persuasive and convincing way. INFPs, in turn, can help ENFJs tap into their individual values and emotions instead of overly focusing on others. There can be a lot of growth and inspiration in this relationship or friendship if both types don’t try to force their preferences on the other type.
“I’m an ENFJ and I have a bro that is INFP. I appreciate his easygoing nature. He will let me talk about anything that is bothering me for any length of time without judgment. Also, he has this aikido thing he does where I can’t stay mad in his presence. No matter the circumstances. Also, he is the best storyteller and had me rolling on the floor laughing out loud. INFPs are pretty amazing.” – Monica
“I love how chill they’ve been (in my experience) about the fact that I’m messy and pretty disorganized when it comes to day-to-day stuff. We can bond over our dysfunction! I also appreciate their “enigma” and the ways that they seem to contradict and surprise.” – @a_rarebird on Twitter
“I’m an ENFJ and our father was too and I feel we have a very harmonious connection with INFPs. My siblings and I are compiling some memories to honor the tenth anniversary of our beautiful INFP mother’s death. This is what I wrote “Mum was a wonderful listener with an amazing ability to be fully present with people on a deep level. She was very accepting and tolerant of the flaws in humanity and able to help people believe in themselves (even though she was at times infuriatingly modest about her own talents). Mum had enormous empathy, a gentle soothing energy and an aura of love and compassion. She loved to laugh too and could do so until tears were running down her face”.
How blessed we were to have her.” – Anne
ISFPs on INFPs
ISFPs and INFPs tend to have a really strong and powerful connection almost immediately. They both are dominant introverted feeling types, so they naturally give each other space to be themselves. They are both idealistic and visionary, with ISFPs having a more down-to-earth, pragmatic bent while INFPs are more focused on imagination and conceptualization. Together they can broaden each other’s worlds and help each other to have more open-minded, balanced perspectives.
“I love that my INFP best friend always presents alternative ways of thinking about things. She challenges the conscience of the status quo & she challenges me to shift my perspective in ways I never would’ve. I also love INFPs’ loyalty & their commitment to be true to themselves.” – @beyoutifulfaith on Twitter
“I really click with INFPs. I used to think I was one, after all! I help them to put their ideas into concrete, tangible things. My bestie is an INFP and she’s always talking about her ideas but they get stuck in the idea-phase. I help her move from the idea phase to the action phase. I help her make art out of her ideas and poems instead of leaving them crumpled up around her room! INFPs are a virtual goldmine of beautiful ideas if you can just get them to make them more tangible.” – Megan
ISTPs on INFPs
These types are very different in many ways, but they tend to click once they get a chance to understand each other. Both ISTPs and INFPs are extremely independent types; they don’t like to be pushed around by other people’s agendas or rules. They both have a fairly live-and-let-live perspective, unless (for INFPs) their values are violated in some way or (for ISTPs) they see someone impeding on their space or harming others with faulty logic. ISTPs can bring a little adventure and practicality into the INFP life and INFPs can bring some imagination and emotional affirmation to the ISTP. These types can clash because they literally share none of the same cognitive functions and they also have preferences in the opposite order (ISTPs are thinkers first/feelers last, INFPs are feelers first/thinkers last). But if these two types can take time to understand each other, their friendship or relationship can be a catalyst for a great deal of personal growth.
“I have a couple INFP friends and we get along well because they’re not pushy and neither am I. I do feel like I have to walk on eggshells around them sometimes, but they’ve learned to just accept me how I am. At first it was a challenge though.” – Matt
“I get along great with INFPs as long as I don’t accidentally offend them. At first it happened near constantly, and now it’s a lot less. I think they can be a lot of fun when they get creative or they have an adventurous streak. I like being there to see that.” – John Handley
ESFPs on INFPs
These two types tend to click because they have a shared passion for authenticity and adventure. ESFPs can help break INFPs out of their shell and introduce them to a variety of exciting experiences. Their enthusiasm and fun-loving nature is often endearing to INFPs. In turn, INFPs can help ESFPs to tap into their emotions more fully and experience life with more depth and imagination. These types tend to bounce ideas and possibilities off each other well, with the ESFP wanting to immediately take action on ideas and the INFP going along for the ride and frequently enjoying the thrill!
“I can talk about anything with INFPs and they accept me for who I am. I do the same for them. I appreciate how easy-going but creative they are.” – Melissa
“INFPs are so compassionate and thoughtful!!! Wouldn’t hurt a fly kind of people and will never try to over-power you.” – @patinar on Twitter
ESTPs on INFPs
Opposites in many respects, ESTPs and INFPs can definitely help each other grow, but they will also push each other beyond their natural comfort-zones. This isn’t typically a “comfortable” relationship, but it can evolve into that if both types share mutual respect and have common values. ESTPs can help INFPs to experience the tangible world in a vivid and immersive way. INFPs can help ESTPs to understand a deeper more emotionally authentic side of themselves.
“I’ve known two types of INFPs. One type is really easy-going and chill and up for anything. The other type is really oversensitive, kind of a social justice warrior type. The first type I get along with great. The second type – not so much.” – Alistair
“I love INFPs. I’m married to an INFP and we can live a really non-conformist, free life and it doesn’t matter that we’re not following the rules or guidelines as prescribed by our current culture. We’re both outliers and weird and we don’t care what other people think. It’s refreshing.” – Barbara
ISFJs on INFPs
ISFJs and INFPs create a bubble of warmth and empathy for each other. These types usually click very quickly. They share a mutual sense of empathy, warmth, and gentleness. At the same time, ISFJs bring a more grounded presence to the relationship while INFPs help to clarify values, bring ISFJs into their pure identity, and give a spark of imagination. These types share two cognitive functions: Extraverted Intuition and Introverted Sensation. Because of this, while they have some differences, there is still a mutual sense of comfort here.
“I love how they’re so compassionate & great listeners. They make me feel like I can share my feelings without judgment. I also love their quirky humor, and I love how they’re often sentimental like me I think it’s beautiful how they pour their souls into the things & people they’re passionate about. They make me feel like a kid again, reminding me there’s more to life than the societal pressures that are put on us.” – @janelockery
ISTJs on INFPs
There is a quiet sense of camaraderie in this relationship. ISTJs and INFPs might seem very different at first glance, but they are both like opposite sides of a coin. They share the same cognitive functions, just in a different order. ISTJs bring a calm sense of security and direction to the relationship while INFPs bring imagination and an idealistic sense of possibility. ISTJs crave what INFPs excel at. They acknowledge the INFP strengths that they often struggle to emulate in themselves. In turn, INFPs experience the same thing in this relationship. They notice and appreciate the steadiness and grounded outlook of the ISFJ. If both types can appreciate each other’s differences and learn from each other there is tremendous potential for growth and happiness.
“I enjoy the calm gentleness and conviction of INFPs. I always feel like I can be myself with them.” – John
“INFPs help me see things in new ways. The world seems brighter with them.” – Maize
ESFJs on INFPs
Warmth and passion are often at the heart of this friendship or relationship. ESFJ/INFP partnerships can be tumultuous or deeply rewarding depending on how willing both types are to understand and respect each other. ESFJs often appreciate the quiet tenderness of INFPs. INFPs can help them to tap into a deeper, truer sense of who they are and what they value. In contrast, ESFJs can provide INFPs with a friendly, down-to-earth haven with which to be themselves and share their ideas.
“I love my INFP wife. She helps me to realize when I’m doing things to please others and when I’m doing things to take care of myself. She helps me to stay real and not get swept up in other people’s demands or attention-seeking grabs.” – Ethan
“I’ve never been very close to an INFP, but the acquaintances I have that are INFPs are very soft-spoken and accepting. They make people feel safe.” – Lyssa
ESTJs on INFPs
ESTJs and INFPs tend to have fiery interactions – sometimes in a good way, sometimes in a bad way. They are opposites in many ways while still sharing the same cognitive functions. ESTJs are often drawn to the quiet sensitivity and creativity of INFPs while INFPs are drawn to the pragmatic, logical nature of ESTJs. If both types can be patient with each other’s differences there is a lot of opportunity in this friendship or partnership for personal growth and broader perspectives.
“INFPs are the opposite of my function stack but I can understand them so well. They are the yin to my yang that is understandable. It really helps me learn about Fi because it is flavored with Ne and not Se. It is so easy to be the super TeSi version of myself. INFPs remind me to be balanced.” – @Amy63169165 on Twitter
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