I don’t know about you, but as I go through each day I think of all the self-help advice I’ve gathered over the years and start to feel like I’m drowning in “should’s.” There are a lot of pros and cons to being a personality researcher: One is that I get a lot of useful…
Lately, I’ve been seeing a steady stream of memes, hot takes, and forum posts arguing about which Enneagram type is the most manipulative. Maybe you’ve seen them too. Lists, rankings, and comments sections on fire. Everyone nervously checking to make sure their own type didn’t land at the top and defending themselves as to why…
Most of us are walking around with a subtle, persistent belief about safety. It may not be physical safety. Instead, it may be emotional safety or existential safety. The kind that tells you, If I just get this one thing right, I can finally relax. So we chase it. We optimize for it. We shape…
I’ve always loved Japanese philosophies. I enjoy discovering proverbs or concepts from other cultures that I can learn from and integrate try to become a better person. Years ago I wrote an article about the Japanese philosophy that would appeal to each Myers-Briggs personality type. Today I thought I’d turn to the Enneagram and find…
By now, most of us have lived through at least one year where our goals started strong and quietly died sometime around February, buried under laundry, fatigue, and the creeping suspicion that maybe we never really wanted them in the first place. I know I’ve been there. I asked for a habit tracker September of…
