5 Ways to Annoy an ESFP

Today we’re going to talk about the charismatic, fun-loving ESFPs! Often referred to as “the Entertainers”, ESFPs live a life full of excitement and optimism. They long to live each moment to the fullest and to bring their infectious enthusiasm to others along the way. They’re sociable, generous, passionate, and full of energy. I have a special place in my heart for ESFPs because I greatly suspect my stepson is one of them – you can’t be around him without picking up on his joy, humor, and authentically warm personality.

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So the question is, what annoys these lively personality types? I decided to get online and ask all the ESFPs I could find. Here are the pet peeves that got mentioned again and again:

1 – Planning Ahead

ESFPs live for the now. This gives them an opportunistic intelligence that makes them quick-thinkers in crisis situations or emergencies. But planning for something five years down the road drives them crazy. They want to think about now and let later deal with itself.  As ESFP Danielle said, “I hate long term goals. Like. Why can’t we just plan for now and plan for later… Later??”.

2 – Beating Around the Bush

If you’ve got something to say, just say it! And please, don’t dawdle. Along with waiting, ESFPs feel restless and stressed when they have to listen to someone take a long time to get to the point. As ESFP Zdena says; “I hate when people take too long, talk too slow or make dramatic pauses in their speech, where I forget they were speaking. And people who tiptoe around the tulips before saying something. Just spit it out! I haven’t got all day!” Another ESFP, Wendy, echoed Zdena’s remarks when she said “I’m not very patient, I move on to other subjects if a person is taking to long to get to the point. Other pet peeves are long theological discussions, or deep intense matters that make no sense and I could care less about.. “

3 – Micro-Managing

ESFPs like to have their personal freedom to be creative and work without restraints or hovering eyes. Having every moment of their day planned out meticulously is like torture for a free-spirited ESFP. While deadlines are acceptable, as much as possible try to give the ESFP the freedom to meet that deadline in their own way.

4 – Negativity

ESFPs like to see the bright side of life. As I said before, they are natural optimists, with a knack for making the most of each moment. They hate to waste time focusing on the dark side, and while they can be a great listener for your problems, they will eventually tire of the complaining and negativity if it’s continuous or frequent. As ESFP Emily says; “Nothing wears me out more than having to be around negative and judgmental people that love to complain and talk and nitpick about other people because they are unhappy with their own lives and jealous of everyone else’s so they put them down to make themselves feel better. the. worst!”

5 – People Who Chew/Eat/Drink Loudly

ESFPs have dominant Extraverted Sensing (Se), which means that they are incredibly aware of everything happening in their immediate environment. It also means that obnoxious sounds like chewing and slurping and smacking stress them out. Because of this, these normally laid-back types may be sticklers for good table manners!

ESFPs and Stress

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What Do You Think?

Would you like to share your own pet peeves or experiences? Do you agree or disagree? Let me know in the comments!

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  1. I have friends who talk about all kinds of utopian ideas that although would be nice are to me a ridiculous snooze fest – bicycle lanes on the freeway automated robot cars with no drivers – OK this is all coming I want to go to yosemite and hug a tree ZZZZZzzzzz

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