5 Ways to Annoy An ISFP
Today I’m excited to talk about the fascinating ISFP personality type. ISFPs are known for their creativity, sincerity, and love of aesthetic beauty. They are often called The Artists or The Composers because of how determined they are to create things that will affect the senses. ISFPs are often quiet and reserved, with excellent listening skills and a strong sense of empathy and compassion. Famous ISFPs include Jacqueline Kennedy Onassis, Bob Dylan, and Ryan Gosling.
5 Ways to Annoy an ISFP
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While the ISFP is usually patient and thoughtful, they can get annoyed and frustrated like anyone else can. What annoys them the most? I checked around on forums and in Facebook groups and consulted my personality manuals to get an idea. These five behaviors came up more than any others:
Arrogance
ISFPs are strongly influenced by their dominant function, Introverted Feeling. Introverted Feelers usually have a strong sense of compassion for the underdogs and the downtrodden, and they can’t stand it when anyone thinks they are somehow better than others or more entitled to respect.
Closed-Mindedness
ISFPs are usually open-minded and willing to give a listening ear to the perspectives of others. When this same courtesy isn’t returned to them, or when they are around people who aren’t open to other people’s viewpoints it aggravates them.
Prying
ISFPs tend to be private about their lives unless someone is really close to them. They dislike it when others try to stick their noses into their business. If you want to stay on an ISFPs good side steer clear of clingy behavior, nagging, badgering, or otherwise invading their privacy or personal space.
Attention Seeking Behavior
ISFPs are strong believers in being genuine and authentic. Any kind of manipulation or phony behavior used to manipulate or gain attention will irritate them. Attention-seeking behaviors they mentioned frequently included posting vague, dramatic Facebook status updates, people who exaggerate to gain esteem or cause shock, or people who use passive aggression to make others feel bad for them.
Half-Listening
ISFPs and INFPs are known for their incredible listening skills. UCLA Neuroscientist, Dario Nardi, said of ISFPs and INFPS “They often enter a special listening mode. They are consummate listeners. They thoroughly engage all brain regions that process voice, words, and sounds; moreover, they may easily enter a unique whole-brain state when listening to other people, whoever those people might be.” Because ISFPs are such good listeners, many people use them as a sounding board for their frustrations and concerns. When other people don’t extend the same courtesy to them it can make them feel frustrated and taken advantage of.
What Do You Think?
Do you agree with these pet peeves or do you have any suggestions? Let me know in the comments!
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🙂 you are right on these, but there are much more things that annoy us. Like long lectures with no solutions, talking because you like to hear your own voice, with no room for questions. That every isfp that gets succesfull suddenly changes in a INTJ or an other N person just because he is succesfull. Come to the facebookpage and read with us, you are welkom 🙂
🙂 read it agai and it still fits.My son is infp and we are like you wrote.
Thanks so much for finally posting this! It was worth the wait. I concur that there are other things that tick me off, but these are probably the top five, with arrogance and attention seeking behavior often being enough for me to set you adrift from me. Inexcusable. Thanks again.
(INFP) This is so similar to the INFP one that you wrote earlier. Fi-dominance really has a lot to do with authenticity, open-mindedness, listening, respect, and compassion. I don’t know any ISFPs irl, but I’m thinking I may need to find one as a friend. 🙂
These posts are always excellent. Thanks!
Thanks for reading it and for giving me your opinion! I definitely noticed a lot of similarities when I asked ISFPs what really bothered them. While the Sensing/Intuition preference creates quite a difference in how the two types take in their environment, I think their values are very similar.
I think the biggest difference is between where an how we apply our values. INFPs tend to take it broader (and the more broad the better), while ISFPs tend to think specifically and locally. INFPs more categorically, and ISFPs more practically. (operative word here being “tend to”) 🙂
People unnecessarily causing drama.
People not being able to read me and then assuming I’m like them.
Yes, that would be frustrating! Thanks for sharing your thoughts!
Oh wow, you just ticked off all my hugest pet peeves. I’m ISFP, and I can definitely concur with all of it. Thanks!
Thanks for reading! I’m glad it was relatable, but hope you don’t have to deal with these pet peeves too often!
Yes! Yes! Yes! I am an ISFP and these five things can annoy me very much, but there is one more I think you need to add and that would make it six. My sixth annoyance is “being interrupted.” I take a small pause to try to collect my thoughts and I get interrupted. Sometimes, people just interrupt me anyway. My mother and my neighbor do both. I tell my mother to stop, but I am afraid to tell my neighbor. Thank you.
Thank you for giving me your thoughts! I’m thinking I may have to do another post for many of the types as I’ve gotten so many suggestions of things to add 🙂 I noted your suggestion in my research, so if I get a second post out I’ll be sure to include it! Thanks again!
Amen to all of these. And yes, being interrupted should definitely be added to the list. I am often interrupted, mid-sentence even. Makes me feel like what I have to say isn’t important to anyone but me.
This is everything that has ever irriated me ever. Literally everything comes down to one of these
I am an ISFP and my the things that annoys me most is when, in conversation with someone, the other person fails to engage with something you have just said (e.g. by asking a question to enable you to elaborate on the point/topic you have just introduced) but instead turns the conversation back to themselves and introduces something else that relates to them/themselves (for which they usually need no invitation to elaborate on). It drives me absolutely mad!
Totally!
hahaha couldn’t agree more. I’m dating an ENTJ and I’m genuinely blown away by how different we are… having a hard time and feel like I might even need to see a therapist.
This is an accurate list. If I could add another, I would say that I am absolutely turned off by cruelty or unkindness, especially if I perceive that it isn’t deserved.
I find myself just absolutely mystified at deliberate cruelty or an attitude that justifies stepping all over someone for selfish gain. Even competition is something i feel is kind of mean. I thought for a long time that I was just too sensitive.
So true… I’m ISFP and totally agree with this list. But most of all I think the most annoying is being interrupted or doesn’t be listened. I listen and didn’t talk if i dont have to say something new or valuable and always take care to be gentle and polite. Usually I feel the other interlocutor doesnt mind my point of view and just likes hearing him/herself. So, I have learned with whom I have to keep my opinions for me, to avoid feeling frustrated for this exhausting exercise/people.
Nicely done….As an ISFP I don’t often read an article where I totally agree with every point….So glad ‘arrogance and ‘closed-mindedness’ are at the top????????????????
I’m so glad that you enjoyed the article! Thank you for your encouraging feedback 🙂
I’m an ISFP. This is SO accurate!
Thanks!!
These would actually annoy anyone. Just saying.
I am a good listener…to a point. That point is two-fold.
1. When I realize the other person drones on incessantly about themselves to where my mind goes numb.
2. When I realize they don’t care about me enough to let me talk and they listen.
Spot on for me with all points
Wow literally
Pretty crazy it’s really close to how I am,, the person I am
Without a doubt, this is me
I am amazed at all you research and how you share it with us .All you do is truly appreciated by me. I love being a ISFP .All you shared is very accurate .Ohh yes when I’m mad leave me alone!!Don’t give me advice or prope me . I need my space .You are so amazing and awesome Susan !!! Love Beverly